Changing others
I found myself near a controlling and manipulative person. It doesn't occur to me that this person knows that she is this way. I guess I feel this way because I think that no good person would intentionally harm others. I want to convince and ultimately, fix what's wrong. I need to let this person be responsbile for her actions.
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I have some serious control issues to work on. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I need some sense of control, which equals order to me, in my life. For me, this order happens through having a neat and organized home. My boyfriend\'s life is so in the air with the trial being postponed, that he has learned to let go of a lot. He has let go of a lot in his life that he feels is beyond his control. Maybe if I were in his shoes, I would do the same thing. But he has really let his house go. In all the cleaning that I do, he states that his house was never as clean as it is now, when his ex wife used to live there. But his house is a mess and I want to come unglued! I want to enjoy my time with him and I am not sure how to do that when I am just beside myself with the mess. Thanks for listening.