You are young, you are human. If you do have a very vivid imagination maybe try fantasizing of one (or two)in particular...that way you would not feel like you were imagining or sexualizing all women. You need healthy relationships also.....with men and women. Given the circumstances between the two of you right now it may be hard.... but just imagine how amazing it would be to share the touch, the feel the tenderness as you were able to reconnect with your wife?
ive tried just fantasizing about her. What it used to be like with her. Made me more attracted to her again. Just made the rejection hurt even more, and more often. That meant more resentment. I'm pretty much at the point that if sex means so little to her with me, then she shouldn't get to have an opinion about it period. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life wallowing in the self pity her disdain of my needs causes.
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You are young, you are human. If you do have a very vivid imagination maybe try fantasizing of one (or two)in particular...that way you would not feel like you were imagining or sexualizing all women. You need healthy relationships also.....with men and women. Given the circumstances between the two of you right now it may be hard.... but just imagine how amazing it would be to share the touch, the feel the tenderness as you were able to reconnect with your wife?
ive tried just fantasizing about her. What it used to be like with her. Made me more attracted to her again. Just made the rejection hurt even more, and more often. That meant more resentment. I'm pretty much at the point that if sex means so little to her with me, then she shouldn't get to have an opinion about it period. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life wallowing in the self pity her disdain of my needs causes.