Can I become a man again?

Separation and divorce take something out of you as a man.  I feel desperation, I have this feeling of not being whole anymore.  And you feel like you dont measure up because you let this happen.  It might not be all your fault. its more 50/50 for most.  in my case i feel like I got hammered by a train because I didnt see it coming.
Can I feel alive again?  Whole, or even somewhat whole? Do I just fold my hand and let whats going to happen, happen?  I see no matter how hard I try to hold on, its like trying to grab and hold air in my hand.  It just slips away from us no matter the grip.
But, can I be alive again? resurrected from the dead inside?  God is the only one that knows.  I just want the pain to stop and my life to start once again.