can a marriage work with little trust
Me and juanita had a long lovers talk last night and ive cheated in the past well she told me that she didnt trust me 100% because of it. It breaks my heart to know that and I told her if i knew that before we got married that i wouldnt of married her. I know that they are based on trust. I just hurt bad that I did that and I hurt because i know she dont trust me. My marriage wasent suppose to have so many diffculties. Every marriage does I guess. Its just hard how do I get through this when shes hurting and i do hurt and deserve to hurt for the things i did.
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Hey girl! Chin up!! I know you love her and are willing to work on the trust issues that are between you. All marriages have ups and downs but being a true romantic I believe that love can conquer anything. Trust is earned so prove to Juanita that you deserve it. I know y\'all will work it out. I\'m always here if you need anything.
Aww hon, I am sorry that you are having some issues in your marriage, we all have various issues from time to time.
Trust is like a credit rating, it can take years to build and only one bad decision to destroy it. Ditto to maryERvetechTX , trust is earned so if you really want to stay married, stand up, be a woman and prove to Juanita that you are worthy of being trusted. Be patient with her, and count your blessings that she is willing to try to work it out. Read all you can about rebuilding trust after infidelity and communicate ALOT .
Big Hugs and Good Luck
Sharon
I also want to add, that what happened in the past when you both were single, ..is in the past. You are both very, very young and you both have chosen to make this life long committment to each other. I would like to recommend that you both clearly look at what happened, acknowledge that it was a hurtful mistake, make a new promise to EACH OTHER, that it will never ever happen again and it will now be left in the past where it belongs. Enough with the ripping each other apart from past sins, girls. Today is today. You are married and in love. A new, solid, sweet committment has been made between you two. You both have many, many years together to look forward to. Look at TODAY and look out in the same direction towards the future. Build on the love you have, and quit ripping it down. You both have to remember how very, very blessed you are to have each other. ((hug))
Hey hun first I wanna say Im sorry that it went down the way it did but I am happy u guys openly tlking about it. Huni ur wife has a point because as the other Ladies said trust takes long to build but only seconds to break..
THing happen and we make mistakes ut it is waht we do after that makes us different..
I think u wudve married her anyway because U love her hun and hun since u love her annd she loves u u can get thru this and u will k :)
SMmle huni we r here forr support :D
As MsTeri said you are both very young and have chosen to make a life long committment to each other, If you choose to work through this, and come out of it stronger, think of how proud you will be in on your 25th anniversary. It is not always easy to live up to our wedding vows, but IMHO it is SO VERY WORTH IT. Good Luck again, I am praying for both of you.