California...?!
So, I have been offered a free trip to Santa Cruz California. I have been in a rut for awhile now, I want to say 5 months but could say 6 years. Regardless, the practical person I am is saying NO!... its an ex boyfriend inviting me. He was the only ex Ive had that there were no angry, jealous feelings with during or after... just kind of a mutual goodbye and almost friendship with benefits. We just recently started talking again and he has offered to fly me down to his ranch in cali to harvest and learn and play. What scares me is being away from my boyfriend, family, and comfort zone. I have to call him tonight to confirm the tickets and have him send them to me... havent seen him since high school... I fear he is expecting something in return, but at the same time know I am strong enough to make is clear that's not what Im coming there for. I was born in California but never had the chance to take a trip out there. I am just concerned about my anxiety in traveling alone, never done this before. I never even left to go to college bc of finances. Dallas is my comfort, but also my rut. I have been "stuck" lately. It is from July 12-19. Advice.... PLEASE?!?!?
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I think as long as its going to be a positive experience for you, you should do it. Just know his intentions and make sure he knows yours, to just harvest and learn or whatever. How does your bf feel about this? Seeing friends is great but if you\'ve been friends w/benefits(which i have been before) knowing men thats probably what he wants. So becareful and talk to both of them before you go, and if it doesnt feel right then dont do it. As far as the anxiety just relax you can do it!!! :)
Thx, yea I think it would be a wonderful possibly life changing experience. It\'s not often I have someone offering to fly me to California. I wanted my Bf to come but he doesn\'t know if he can take off work. We have been together almost two years and he says he trusts me and knows how exciting it would be for me to visit my birth place and just get away from the stress of everyday life... I guess ill go, and just play it by ear. Im not sure how to make my intentions clear without hurting this guys feelings but I think were on the same page.. thx for the advice!! So confused
Is your bf really ok with it? Is it worth risking that relationship? How would u feel if he were going to see an ex? Just something to think about. Aside from that, traveling is so great, free travel is even better. Let us know what u decide.
He says he trusts me, I told him everything and he says he just wants me to be happy... I told him I would definitely NOT be okay with him doing the same. I have insecurity and trust issues with him however. And being away from him for 8 days might be the hardest but best thing I\'ve done for myself, and our relationship. I\'m bust still very nervous about it all.