bullying/dramatic behavior//e's mother died of cancer//davey & goliath show//
"Emotional hijackings - bullying/dramatic behavior
bullying/dramatic behavior at work and in life is common as well as hateful. if you want people to despise you, drama/bullying is the way to accomplish that. people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking - bullying/drama at work and in life.
An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you’re trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.
Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might “deserve it,” turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You’ll be labeled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating.
Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver’s seat. When you’re able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.
L's mother-in-law has cancer right now. she had it eight years ago as well. another cousin-in-law's mother, also has cancer. e from cr school, her mother just died of cancer. i have a feeling i should adjust to all this death, but this year seems to be really hard hitting. i like the obit they wrote for e's mother, except that they list all the children but leave out ALLLL the names of the spouses. i have never seen anyone do that before. wth?
j says e's family left out the spouses names on e's mother's obit because so many of the kids are married more than once and the grandchildren have different fathers because of that. so they just listed the 8 kids and numerous grand kids and great grand kids, without explanations.
e's mother was a social worker for 20 years, that is how she met her attorney husband, but both of them started out as children of working class families from jersey city of all places and always had heavy jersey city accents their entire lives. e would try to be as quiet as possible at the cr academy where we went to school, because if she spoke a LOT her accent (which was mimicked from her parents, it wasn't from the area where e lived) was extremely noticeable. i have no idea why she talked like that. none of her sisters or brothers had accents. the generation her parents belong to, often have accents according to where they are from. its interesting really, but that kind of thing doesn't really exist anymore.
the accent thing seems to be fading, i guess because there is soooo much television and all people do is listen to people on tv who don't have accents. the generation of e's parents, only had three tv channels way back when, and tv ENDED at 2 a.m. wasn't it? lmao. i actually remember t.v. that stopped. wow. the t.v. would play the national anthem, show the usa flag and then static. if you waited a few hours while reading a good book then the Lutheran church had davey and goliath on t.v. around 5 a.m. i think it was. (i still LOVE that show) they were puppets with story lines that taught morals. it still makes me feel calm just hearing the music. it would have a rocket go off by the puppet and then the show would start.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UC5mK1VmvBM
e's mother died of cancer. also one of the lawyers from mccarter and english mother died of cancer as well. its strange how with people up there everything overlaps and comes back to you in all different directions - that lawyer's mother lived in the same town i lived in when i was working in uptown manhattan. it was also the same end of town where i taught dance part time a couple of years after that. everything interconnects if you live in one area too long. it makes me feel claustrophobic. an introvert, yes we can be "friends" (which by today's definition is what the word "friendly" used to mean) and i want to know how you are and that you are okay, i just don't want to see you, socialize with you or ever verbally hear from you. lol. so many people are like that now. they text only. probably better that way, you can think about what you are going to say, before you say it. though some people even on facebook replies, they still sound like chalk on a black board. grating. absolutely awful. if i had to listen or respond to people like that i'd be an alcoholic just like the generations before me. lol.
bullying/dramatic behavior at work and in life is common as well as hateful. if you want people to despise you, drama/bullying is the way to accomplish that. people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking - bullying/drama at work and in life.
An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you’re trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.
Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might “deserve it,” turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You’ll be labeled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating.
Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver’s seat. When you’re able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.
L's mother-in-law has cancer right now. she had it eight years ago as well. another cousin-in-law's mother, also has cancer. e from cr school, her mother just died of cancer. i have a feeling i should adjust to all this death, but this year seems to be really hard hitting. i like the obit they wrote for e's mother, except that they list all the children but leave out ALLLL the names of the spouses. i have never seen anyone do that before. wth?
j says e's family left out the spouses names on e's mother's obit because so many of the kids are married more than once and the grandchildren have different fathers because of that. so they just listed the 8 kids and numerous grand kids and great grand kids, without explanations.
e's mother was a social worker for 20 years, that is how she met her attorney husband, but both of them started out as children of working class families from jersey city of all places and always had heavy jersey city accents their entire lives. e would try to be as quiet as possible at the cr academy where we went to school, because if she spoke a LOT her accent (which was mimicked from her parents, it wasn't from the area where e lived) was extremely noticeable. i have no idea why she talked like that. none of her sisters or brothers had accents. the generation her parents belong to, often have accents according to where they are from. its interesting really, but that kind of thing doesn't really exist anymore.
the accent thing seems to be fading, i guess because there is soooo much television and all people do is listen to people on tv who don't have accents. the generation of e's parents, only had three tv channels way back when, and tv ENDED at 2 a.m. wasn't it? lmao. i actually remember t.v. that stopped. wow. the t.v. would play the national anthem, show the usa flag and then static. if you waited a few hours while reading a good book then the Lutheran church had davey and goliath on t.v. around 5 a.m. i think it was. (i still LOVE that show) they were puppets with story lines that taught morals. it still makes me feel calm just hearing the music. it would have a rocket go off by the puppet and then the show would start.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UC5mK1VmvBM
e's mother died of cancer. also one of the lawyers from mccarter and english mother died of cancer as well. its strange how with people up there everything overlaps and comes back to you in all different directions - that lawyer's mother lived in the same town i lived in when i was working in uptown manhattan. it was also the same end of town where i taught dance part time a couple of years after that. everything interconnects if you live in one area too long. it makes me feel claustrophobic. an introvert, yes we can be "friends" (which by today's definition is what the word "friendly" used to mean) and i want to know how you are and that you are okay, i just don't want to see you, socialize with you or ever verbally hear from you. lol. so many people are like that now. they text only. probably better that way, you can think about what you are going to say, before you say it. though some people even on facebook replies, they still sound like chalk on a black board. grating. absolutely awful. if i had to listen or respond to people like that i'd be an alcoholic just like the generations before me. lol.
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I do not what to say, but hugs
thanks mary.
i went investigating. looks to me like her sisters still have the same spouses and two of them still live a few blocks from her mom\'s former house, soooo, why weren\'t the spouses listed in the obit. almost afraid to ask
It was a long journal for me to read through, but I gave it my best shot! I really like the part you wrote about bullying and dramatic behavior. We do accomplish more by not stooping down to people who wrong us. Getting that low, as to repeat THEIR behavior, makes us look foolish. This was good advice, I thought.
As I get to feeling better physically, I\'ll be able to read more, 38! xo
also i scroll though, most of them don\'t do facebook at all and e only started in 2010. don\'t remember when i did. she has photos from the reunion, and even something like that one of the women has a friend on there who is was the stalker who used to harrass me and s years ago and that is just that i knew about, it was more than that - we caught her and her family in our house in teaneck, not near it, IN it. that friggin town is full of criminals that should have been put away years ago. way too small a world. creepy. i say this to e and she says she already asked me if i knew her and i said no. true, i don\'t, wouldn\'t recognize her if i ran into her, and then you remember. how do people handle living around all the melodrama, i would have a heart attack if i had to live around all that crap.
e\'s sister is still doing cr but didn\'t get certified until 1985 which is odd because she was in school a couple of years before us. e ended up teaching exercise classes to seniors at the y and still does. would never have expected that at all. her son is a stay at home dad and his wife owns a hair salon. different generation. they are a year apart. e doesn\'t know this but rumor was that she was married to a foreign italian guy, who was a cousin of her boyfriend during cr school. hmmmm, looks to me like the same guy. no idea if that is worth re-stating to her, though she was doing something like that at some point during school. shocked they are still together, if it is. it would also show how much i don\'t pay attention. i was much better at all of that when i used to send christmas cards yearly, and before my mail was getting stolen so much - even when they get the culprits it doesn\'t change the time lost and then you just give up. its sad. why do people do stuff like that? if g was sitting here she would blame it all on people\'s mental disorders, but that doesn\'t stop them either. i didn\'t even know bda when she started going after my personal things and i never knew nancybrown or the divine brothers at all. if anyone thinks that criminals feel bad about what they do, they don\'t. they enjoy being criminals that is why they act like that in the first place. the longer they get away with it the worse the more crime they commit.