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My husband & I got in an argument right now and he used my anxiety against me. He talked shit in a kids voice saying "I got anxiety.. I got anxiety .." pretty much talking shit . I'm so upset right now he always says this whenever we argue & uses it against me .. I don't know what to do ... makes me feel like a POS but makes me feel like I shouldn't feel bad for my anxiety issues either.. opinions
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He obviously doesn't know what you are going through, when you both calm down tell him what it's like to have anxiety and that you don't appreciate him mimicking you as you are both grown adults. I hope your situation sorts it self out soon. All the best.
Domestic tit-for-tat is a mind boggling sport. Is it not amazing how quickly people who love one another turn into savage beasts kicking one another hearts and hopes up and down the playing field? I married one of the gentlest souls I have ever known, but when the games begin, his capacity for gentle compassion turns into one of the most savage weapons on the market. I am a child sex trafficking survivor and his savagery has enough ammunition to devastate the entire U.S. military force.
When this happens to me, I work to let whatever ^it^ he is using against me *this time* be a *simple* fact. Whatever you say, Dear. My true goal is to get off the tit-for-tat playing field as efficiently as possible. I then carry my hurt and confusion to my therapy support network to help me untangle the resulting psycho snot knots among people who understand the inside dynamics of the trials of living with a mental health condition. I wouldn't wish that inside understanding on my worst enemy, much less the love of my life, but the folks who already understand through no choice of their own are priceless in helping me cope. The good news is that healing from these domestic tit-for-tat skirmishes provides me with some of the most sustainable healing of my healing journey. When I can keep my calm during domestic tit-for-tat with the love of my life, fielding the stigma spewing of Jane and John Q. Public feels like a walk in the park. Keeping my calm during those skirmishes also makes it easier to find the problem spots later and discuss them in a more rational frame of mind.
Steadying support while you work the healing process, Rashella. Spouses make lousy therapy supporters, but we are here for you. You are not alone with the madness.