Broken Wedding Vows
Last night I opened an old book I had not read in a while and inside it I found a typed copy of our wedding vows and that tore me up. We wrote them and spoke them to each other.
We both failed at it in the end. It makes me sad.
"I will be mindful of the act of loving you every day of my life.
I will not take you for granted, but will keep my eyes open to the treasure that you are, allowing
room for your individuallity and your own uniquness.
I will not try to bend you to my ways, but rather open myself to your ways as being part of who you are.
I will embrace all of you, the dark parts along with the light, because together those parts create the being that I love. I will accept you, respect you and admire you. When something comes between us to make me stumble with this, I will go to you and ask for your help with my struggle. I will bring my challenges to you, looking for your thoughts and support and I will return that support to you freely. When I am hurt, I will believe in your love for me. I will bring you my hurt, and together we will grow from it and then put it aside.
I will share all of myself with you, for I know to receive your entire heart, you must have mine.
Together we will work, we will play, we will laugh, we will grieve and we will find our way.
Together we will live gratitude.
Together we will touch love.
We both failed at it in the end. It makes me sad.
"I will be mindful of the act of loving you every day of my life.
I will not take you for granted, but will keep my eyes open to the treasure that you are, allowing
room for your individuallity and your own uniquness.
I will not try to bend you to my ways, but rather open myself to your ways as being part of who you are.
I will embrace all of you, the dark parts along with the light, because together those parts create the being that I love. I will accept you, respect you and admire you. When something comes between us to make me stumble with this, I will go to you and ask for your help with my struggle. I will bring my challenges to you, looking for your thoughts and support and I will return that support to you freely. When I am hurt, I will believe in your love for me. I will bring you my hurt, and together we will grow from it and then put it aside.
I will share all of myself with you, for I know to receive your entire heart, you must have mine.
Together we will work, we will play, we will laugh, we will grieve and we will find our way.
Together we will live gratitude.
Together we will touch love.
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The vows were beautiful, and I\'m so sorry you are hurting, Amy. When I think back to promises that were made in past relationships, it also makes me sad. Here are a couple of inspirational quotes for you:
\"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.\"
~Ralph Waldo Emerson~
\"It\'s easier to go down a hill than up it, but the view is much better at the top.\"
~Henry Ward Beecher~
What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson~
I\'m praying for you, my friend.
Thank you for the quotes, they are helpful..
And thanks for the prayer. I need to put the vows away and let it go.
I wish I had not found those last night. Dang it.
Amy..those were beautiful! I often wonder how love can go from something so whole and wonderful to something so shattered and unhappy. Memories like your vows hurt so much when we come across them but you will get to the place where you can look at them dispassionately. I feel nothing when I look at the memories of my marriage now.
I will get there. Thanks Panther!
Oh Amy, I\'m so sad for you right now. Yes, we will heal, but little things like finding those vows really takes us back a step or two. We all need to prepare for little surprises like that, I just can\'t imagine the pain that caused. We are sooo careful to avoid our exes and then boom something hits us like a ton or bricks and here we go again. Sending you big, fat hugs!!!!!
Those words were very touching. Reminders will continue to pop up. Just remember to remain focused on you moving forward. Stay strong.
Thanks ladies - it means a lot to have your support and encouragement.
It was a step back for sure. I have been cleaning this little house up and getting rid of things. I found our wedding album but had the sense to not open it. I will shove it into a box and not give it a look. I\'d give it to him but he does not deserve to have it. I want the photos that are of MY children and my family and friends. Just not going there right now.
Sorry this hurt you deeply. You are on the road to a brighter future- remember that. The past is in the past for a reason. You are doing great despite a setback now and then!
Aww real sorry you are hurting Amy !!! I was married once divorced now but it thur me forva loop also how my ex husband didnt take those vows serious at all unfortunatley
Big hug hang in there girl k !