Breakup
New to this.... Realizing I am super codependent and realizing all the hurt and everything it has caused to a relationship I treasured more than any on the inside... She has left me for the second time bc of my jealousy and insecurities... Although I want nothing more than to wake up each morning by her side she really seems not to even want to talk to me... Adds new guys on social media within days of breaking up... Ugh what can I do???
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There are Coda or alanon meetings that address
That issue also going to therapy will help alot too,
HUGS
Thank u...
take a deep breath, you're not alone. start the 180 method for your own health- stop begging, pursuing, pleading and convincing - stop the bleeding in your relationship. explore what your codependency, jealousy and insecurities are caused by, these will be much easier addressed with proper support of a counsellor. right now the wounds are fresh, find support in those who you can turn to and realize things absolutely do get better
i should also advise that you should stop looking at her social media accounts as it will only frustrate the heck out of you and not solve anything at all for you
True... But it gives me a sense of where she's at in like the new guy already sense... We have been there before but she has only added a few to the lists... When we were together she said and showed that if she did get requests and whatnot that they didn't matter but every time we do split she adds guys... Usually more attractive than me but other times I would say ugh... But why would she add them since she doesn't know them or even if she knew them before yet doesn't associate with them like that... It's like they were there for the "reason" if u know what I mean...