Breakthrough
We finally had a good talk about why he did what he did. He acknowledged his weakness so I think we have made the first step of me trusting him again. He has agreed to read "After the Affair" and talk about it as we go. We still have a long way to go but I feel more confident that we can make it.
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Ok, you and he see his weakness, vulnerability. That is good. But you must tread lightly and protect your heart from being broken again. And your H should get treated for his weakness so it doesn\'t happen again. You have a therapist, but does he??? Your therapist says YOU need to communicate more, but how does he receive it? Does HE want to communicate more? Is he open to listening to you describe your pain, ask the disgusting questions, telling him over and over what a callous heartless bastard he is? Is he doing things to try and rebuild trust, not just talking? Actions speak volumes in trust building.