BREAKING POINT
Thanks for the comments...IS IT NOT ENOUGH THAT KEN DIED...THAT MORE AND MORE
ISh AND MORE...WHAT DOES ONE (OTHERS) THINK YOU CAN DO...I AM AFRAID I AM ALMOST TO THE BREAKING POINT
As I sit here in the wee morning of the day 3:00 a.m. I really really don't know what to do............I tried to sleep...HE TAKES THE whole BED...won't move 1/2 inch for me to have a bit of room..so I just get up again ...3 hours sleep...for over a month now....
I am totally disgusted with my husband...I want some peace...some rest...but he is too...going to prove he can do what he wants...Now it is 5:00 a.m. he is up..making noise that means he will wake up mom........IT JUST WON'T STOP...
WHAT DO I DO?????
Finally, I think I have gotten my mom to understand why she can't go to a nursing home...hopefully that will help with the questions....
Now my f.....husband says he has had enough cause of how I talk to him...He don't deserve me talking any different..I ask for certain things be done that he needs to do and HE'S tired of it...I HAVE BEEN TIRED OF IT FOR 15 YEARS....
GOD, WHY DO I FEEL I AM BEING PUNISHED OVER AND OVER...KEN..DIES...IT IS HORRIBLE..
NOW ALL THIS GARBAGE...I CAN HANDLE MY MOM...NOT SURE I CAN HANDLE ALL OF IT...........
HERE IS A FOR INSTANCE : the house is a mess...I had just got home looking to buy a chair....sweating like a pig...finally, just went a purchased a new one...got home...have to help lift it out of the truck..hurts me...then finally I tell him to call a neighbor ..after complaining a lot...he calls...boy comes to help....so much to be done...next thing I know he is off and running to ride in a car with someone...Beyond my words with the pressures I have...the things that need doing...before we can even go to bed, he goes for a joy ride...while I still have to continue to handle the stress of everything.
3 a.m. I could have slept...but NOOOOOOO, he would not give me an inch..I am on the bed...he is spread out taking the bed...then says he is on the edge...funny how he has his whole room...on the bed and mine too....but he is on the edge......
Not one bit of consideration for me...never...it is his way or no way...yet he lies..does to me as pleases and I am suppose to continue to want to be with him...I DON"T but the bastard won't go away...
thanks for letting me vent....I feel better now....still stressed to the max...
Sandi...
ISh AND MORE...WHAT DOES ONE (OTHERS) THINK YOU CAN DO...I AM AFRAID I AM ALMOST TO THE BREAKING POINT
As I sit here in the wee morning of the day 3:00 a.m. I really really don't know what to do............I tried to sleep...HE TAKES THE whole BED...won't move 1/2 inch for me to have a bit of room..so I just get up again ...3 hours sleep...for over a month now....
I am totally disgusted with my husband...I want some peace...some rest...but he is too...going to prove he can do what he wants...Now it is 5:00 a.m. he is up..making noise that means he will wake up mom........IT JUST WON'T STOP...
WHAT DO I DO?????
Finally, I think I have gotten my mom to understand why she can't go to a nursing home...hopefully that will help with the questions....
Now my f.....husband says he has had enough cause of how I talk to him...He don't deserve me talking any different..I ask for certain things be done that he needs to do and HE'S tired of it...I HAVE BEEN TIRED OF IT FOR 15 YEARS....
GOD, WHY DO I FEEL I AM BEING PUNISHED OVER AND OVER...KEN..DIES...IT IS HORRIBLE..
NOW ALL THIS GARBAGE...I CAN HANDLE MY MOM...NOT SURE I CAN HANDLE ALL OF IT...........
HERE IS A FOR INSTANCE : the house is a mess...I had just got home looking to buy a chair....sweating like a pig...finally, just went a purchased a new one...got home...have to help lift it out of the truck..hurts me...then finally I tell him to call a neighbor ..after complaining a lot...he calls...boy comes to help....so much to be done...next thing I know he is off and running to ride in a car with someone...Beyond my words with the pressures I have...the things that need doing...before we can even go to bed, he goes for a joy ride...while I still have to continue to handle the stress of everything.
3 a.m. I could have slept...but NOOOOOOO, he would not give me an inch..I am on the bed...he is spread out taking the bed...then says he is on the edge...funny how he has his whole room...on the bed and mine too....but he is on the edge......
Not one bit of consideration for me...never...it is his way or no way...yet he lies..does to me as pleases and I am suppose to continue to want to be with him...I DON"T but the bastard won't go away...
thanks for letting me vent....I feel better now....still stressed to the max...
Sandi...
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i am so sorry. i wish there were something i could say or do that would make things better. but only you can decide what you need to do. i to am just tired, tired,tired. but any time you just need to vent i am here. i can and will listen. sometimes that help more than anything. prayers and hugs to you. teresa
I wish I was there to give you a hug. I am also here for venting. I will be traveling but for the first month, I will have access to a computer. Not so sure about September!
Big Hugs,
Marlene
I\'m sorry things are so hard..... Take time to get quiet with yourself and listen to what your spirit tells you. NOT your head, not even your heart, listen to your spirit....
When we moved to two twin beds, my husband told me, \"You always slept all over me,\" he never liked it, I thought I was loving. Funny, no? We are both better off in our own beds with our own covers. Of course we are old now, and I am sick, still we started this about 20 years ago. I sleep in a hospital bed my father left me. My husband knows not, NOT to wake me up.
I\'m sorry you are having a rough time.. If you need to sleep in another place, so be it. Be glad for the times he goes off, it leaves you more time to not have to deal with him.
Take one small area at a time to clean if the mess bothers you (I know, it also bothers you that HE does not help) but that is another battle for another day...
You have to vent or you will explode! I slept on the sofa for the first 5 years of my marriage because of the snoring and farting! My friend who had been married many years often times slept on the sofa. I had a sleeping bag by the sofa, God knows he wouldn\'t move. Than Matt took the bedroom in the basement and I took his. I still sleep in the other room. I agree with JennMom66 but you see, I have a wonderful group of girlfriends and if I am over whelmed they will come and we can be done FAST. We cleaned our friend\'s house....we just told her we were coming. We got rid of the clutter, organized, brought food of course, rearranged furniture EVERYTHING! Girlfriends are willing to roll up their sleeves and get to it......we wouldn\'t let our friend help! That drove her batty! If I were there I would bring my friends and it would all be taken care of..toot sweet. THEN, I would out to a clearance place and get a sofa bed....make it a queen size!!! When it is time for bed you just unfold it...tell your husband that you are so sorry for getting on him about the bed situation and now he can sleep any way he wants and you two don\'t have to be bothered about it. Don\'t look at things the way they are you have to find a way to climb over it, dig through it, hike around it, in order to get through the problem. Don\'t ever let someone take away from you your kindness and spirit. Always start a request with \"Is there and reason why.... \" Our minds are on auto pilot and automatically say no. This way if he says No...You say great! I am so glad you will help me out with this... IT WORKS GREAT ON KIDS TOO!!!!!!!
Gentle hugs, Sandi. Vent away. I am here to listen. I wish I could do more...Sending love & peace, Linda