Breaking off an A is very diffrent than your typical break-up

I as I read on this site and get to know myself better, I think that breaking off an A is different than other types of break-ups between people who are not married.  For me when I was single and got dumped or did the dumping there was a pain involved the proverbial "broken-heart".  It did hurt, but when you are younger and single the broken heart could mend a little easier.  The single friends would see your pain and take you out to get over those bad feelings.  Some guys even go to strip clubs to shake it off.  Other people just quickly meet someone new and begin a new relationship (out with the old and in with the new). 
Anyway, it feels so different when it is an A and both parties are married with children.  If the CS and the AP developed emotional feelings for each other as I did, the pain seems to be harder than break-ups when you are younger and single.  For one thing, in my case part of me did not want to end the A nor did the OW want to end it.  It is ending because we have each have children and spouses who deserve better.  Secondly, whereas someone who is single and dumped can get over the pain by going to meet someone new (out with the old in with the new), those of us that are ending the A to rebuild the M are not out to find a new OW or OM (no new person to help us out of this funk).  Instead we have our spouses and our M's (M's that were probably broken to begin with).  For these reasons, the A break-up is a lonely one indeed. . .