Boundaries
I picked Roomie up at the airport last night. He was happy to get home and Lefty and Sammy were happy to see him.
This morning I got up and went and sat and had coffee with Roomie where he preceded to make innuendos and a pass at me. I quickly goot up and went and showered and got dressed and left to do some instacarting. I stopped him dead in his tracks. After I left the house I sent him a text explaining to him that I cared deeply for him as friends but am learning to have boundaries in my life with people and that I've swore off physical relationships for a year. It does not mean that i will never not have another relationship with him but i made a promise to myself and I'm keeping it. I managed to make a 100.00 today and so tommorow I'll start earlier and make another 100.00.
I got home and Roomie said that he understood why I was doing what I was doing. I'm proud of myself. Whereas in the past I would let guilt rule I didnt feel an ounce of it this time. I'm not going to be physical with someone just for the pleasure. I deserve more than that.
I've decided to baby my teeth and hold out for awhile on the big expense. It's too much for me with moving and trying to get established. I still have not taken any pain meds because it hasn't been bothering me. Knock on wood.
I need to start taking better care of myself.
To all a pleasant Sat night and Sunday.
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Good for you!
Wow! ! ! Would it be safe to call that a breakthrough day? Go you! ! ! Way to build a life of your own.
There are periodontal rinses you can buy in the tooth care aisle which will help baby that tooth infection. They ain't cheap, but they are much cheaper than further damage and really do help.
The best lessons I ever learned were in the school of life......I use to allow my emotions to control me and then I would have to clean up the mess afterwards. Then I would try to numb my runaway emotions with drugs and alcohol. Then I got sick and tired of the merry-go-round and learned how to look at things differently, forgiving myself and letting go of the guilt. Yes you should be proud and you can do it, I know you can go a year without!.
Dental work is expensive and my insurance is crap so I always put off dental work but now I am paying the price for it so if it's emergency work like and extraction, I wouldn't put it off any longer then I had to.
Hugs
I’ve been married 30 years and I’m still very much in love.
However we felt that we had to do life on our own. And she has some physical/mental issues to heal so she has been in a tropical paradise for about six months.
While I miss her it’s been a good experience to be myself. When she comes back we are going to live apart for a while more. By next year we may be ready to come together.
We developed a friendship the last few years that has been more important than a physical relationship at this time. I miss holding her and at the same time I’m aware of my attachment so it’s been very liberating to feel this freedom. For a long time I always thought she was the only one for me. Now I feel that if we need to continue to ‘just’ be friends it’s ok. I have more confidence that I know what a healthy relationship means now and that one way or another I will have the chance to be in one.
I love the feeling of not being in a hurry to jump back in. It’s interesting that Corona hit at this time. It could have strained our relationship instead of strengthening it by being apart and looking forward to our daily communication.
The tangled webs we weave..... I’m glad you’re committed to stepping back. I wasn’t seeing how much I was missing my own identity and this realization has saved me and my future relationship (s)
Good luck on the dental work. I put my teeth back together over the last few years and it was expensive. Insurance covered about a 1/3. Lame:( But I found an amazing dr who worked with me on payments and is so skilled that it was painless.
Keep being honest:)
Good for you do not give up on your new ambitions .Wonderful!!!!!!
Stay strong & do not give in .
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