Bitter- long rant, beware
I had a diffcult Thanksgiving. I am not liked by my Mother and Father in law and they had good reason not to like me but I think they should be over it by now. They skipped me when we were going around the table saying what we were thankful for, but luckily my baby sister in law (Grace, she's 7) asked about me. I said some crap about being part of the family knowing it was a lie. The food was great and I ate a ton (and gained a ton). I'm just bitter. I was playing with Grace for most of the rest of the day, and it's hard for me to play with her with all my pain. Mostly I felt ingored. I have a lot of issues with my medication and I know I will feel better later, but for now my mood is bitter. Geo's family treats him like crap, too, so it's not just me. His little brother got a $400 gaming headset for no reason. Geo wants one but can't afford it (and neither can I) and is jealous. He got $75 for his birthday from his dad. It's nice to get money, but when they are spending all this money on his brother and sister it makes him jealous and hurt. His family travels all the time (his dad works for American Airlines, so they get free flights) and makes him drive them all to the airport so the rest of them can go. His cousin got married a couple of weeks ago, so the family went to Puerto Rico to go to the wedding and Geo was not invited. It hurts him a lot and it hurts me too, seeing him like that. His family says he should just be grateful to get the car for the weekend. Our car is broken and it looks like it's going to stay that way, so it's nice to have a car and go shopping and all that. But I would rather have Geo go with his family and not have a car. I swear, sometimes I just hate his dad and stepmom. They treat him like crap and hurt him and don't care. When he was living with them years ago, his mattress was so old it had springs sticking out that would cut him and his stepmom didn't care. This is also the woman who lied about being on birth control to have a kid. Geo's stepmom is YOUNGER than Geo. That's why I have a 14 year old brother in law and 7 year old baby sister. She wanted kids so she lied about being on birth control. Such wonderful people. You know what? I need to stop caring about the adults and just deal with Grace and Jonathan (Geo's little brother). They don't care about me. They don't even care about Geo. Sometimes I want to not go over there with his family, but I do for Grace. I want her to be able to come over here as well... bake, play games, watch movies.. but it's hard to deal with all her energy when my body is breaking down. Geo's body is just broken. I don't know. I've been typing this all out to try and come to peace with everything. I don't know if I have or not. I just know there is a lot of hurt going around and I feel powerless. I sit on the sideline and see Geo's family rip him apart emotionally. I know there's nothing I can do to help him. And that hurts me even more.
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Hon, those are people that you should try to stay away from. They are not family, they are manipulators. When they want to be driven to the airport, find an excuse, any excuse not to go. You do not need the car that badly. I know how you feel. My ex-inlaws were the same. I was totally invisible to them. Now he has to deal with everything. Let them be, you and Geo can manage very well on your own. Is there any way you can set up a barter with someone to take you shopping if you do something for them. I do that. I got rid of my car because the expenses were too much. I will take the taxi for grocery shopping if I need to.
We have an okay bus system here, so I can take the bus to the store. When I get stronger, I can walk to the store and home. I have a cart that I put everything in, so I don't have to carry everything. If not, I can always use Lyft (it's like a taxi, but it's a car and cheaper. If you want info on it, let me know because I get a bonus if I refer someone). I know my in-laws are not the best people, but I hang around them for Grace. She needs a positive influence in her life.
was it always like that? before the other kids were born? his father may also be doing the thing where he's over 21 or over 18 so basically on your own now. its hard to tell because the other two are still younger. if they were over 21 and still spoiled and geo isn't, its just wrong. sorry they make you upset. anything stressful always sucks and life is easier to just avoid the stress.