Bitch
Yesterday she texted me to open up the conversation about custody. After repeatedly saying she won't keep my daughters from me, she "offered" me time with them three days a week. I proposed an alternating 3 days one week and 4 days the next. She says if I don't accept her offer she'll ask for more in court. What? She's threatening me? This is the divorce SHE wanted because we "grew apart". Not my idea. I'm not a cheater, abuser, addict or loser. She said this wouldn't get nasty but says "fuck you" and flips me off in my face because I want 50-50 custody?
Question: shouldn't a mother be thrilled that her children's father loves his kids enough to want to spend time with them? Anyone?
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Whatever you two do, don't use the kids in arguments or bargaining.
3 days is fine - why risk problems over another day which may be a problem for her?
Keep it as amicable as you can as every word or action is used against you.... and you sure don't need more crap on top of everything else.
A couple of things that are a total waste of time
1/ The Blame Game
- who cares? it makes no difference whatsoever and there's no point scoring.
2/ Contact & Arguements
- Keep contact to a minimum or nill and just be grateful you can still see your kids
3/ Answers
- No chance, unless you want to hear twisted half truths and elaborated stories that you will want to argue over
The relationship you had has gone and she has withdrawn the love and understanding you thought you had
Concentrate on clearing all the negative stuff from your head and your health.....
If you don't eat properley, it affects your mind and body.
If you have lost, as I did, three stone in six weeks, take multivitamins with iron and don't buy too many skinny clothes, coz you will have to roll em all up n put in back of wardrobe again when the flab returns lol
Try and keep any chat to as few words as possible and agree where you can - it will make your life easier whilst you struggle back to a new normality
Yes, she should.
You sound like a good dad.....
I can't imagine how devastating this must be.
Stick to your guns, your girls need their daddy.
Amazing how the once most important person in your life becomes your worst enemy. You expected to live with this woman for ever, now she hates you. Nothing but evil has occurred. It's hard to think of yourself as a spiritual being and material things don't matter in the end while alive on this Earth. There is nothing good resulting from a spouse turning evil. Nothing can just make it stop. The relationship with children is the worst consequence of a divorce. To not be involved in your children's life daily will be a regret you will have for the rest of your life. Much of life is about suffering, and it's a shame.
Yes much of life is about suffering, especially when there are kids involved. I am hoping for the time to pass quickly and I get to the other side of this heartache. I am so happy to hear you are a great Dad who is trying to be in there lives.