big move
the time is getting closer i only have 21 days left at work before i quit and 22 days before Wendy lands in pittsburgh i am slowly getting my stuff taken care of i cant wait until she gets here i have missed her so much and i know she misses me just as much thats not the problem .and getting ready to move isnt bothering me either i want that so much i cant wait to start my /our new life together .
the problem is Amanda my step daughter we had a big blow up about everything she doesnt think i should take my wife cindy ashes with me when i move she also told me she would never accept anyone being with me but her mother and she doesnt understand why i am moving to australia and why wendy wasnt moving over here it got pretty bad and she made it sound like she has done everything for me and i have only done a few things for her and i know thats BS its the other way around so i let her have it with everything that she hasnt been there or done for me .i think she is just trying to talk me out of leaving and /or make me feel bad about moving .thats the way she is and has always been with me if i do as she wishes its all good if i dont i am a a hole .
like i told Wendy soon time ago its our time not our kids its time for us to think and care about ourselves they have their partners and kids of their own and we and this needs all of us widows and widowers have lost everything we knew when our loved one died so its time for us to take care of ourself who else will it would be better if Manda was good about this and not the way i think she will be and make it harder then it has to be when to time comes for me to move .
manda doesnt understand i love Wendy with all my heart and i feel alive again when im with her .she also needs to understand that the empty life i have at the moment sucks i cant just keep sitting at home waiting for my once a week for two and half hour visit from her and the grandchildren it feels like im a bother to everyone and no one whats to come visit me or call me execept when they need something then im the most important person to them .
im going to live with Wendy here im loved and i feel important i think about Wendy all the time and i miss her every second of every day and i know she feels the same way so we are changing the way we live .
mandy can make it easy or make it hard its up to her
the problem is Amanda my step daughter we had a big blow up about everything she doesnt think i should take my wife cindy ashes with me when i move she also told me she would never accept anyone being with me but her mother and she doesnt understand why i am moving to australia and why wendy wasnt moving over here it got pretty bad and she made it sound like she has done everything for me and i have only done a few things for her and i know thats BS its the other way around so i let her have it with everything that she hasnt been there or done for me .i think she is just trying to talk me out of leaving and /or make me feel bad about moving .thats the way she is and has always been with me if i do as she wishes its all good if i dont i am a a hole .
like i told Wendy soon time ago its our time not our kids its time for us to think and care about ourselves they have their partners and kids of their own and we and this needs all of us widows and widowers have lost everything we knew when our loved one died so its time for us to take care of ourself who else will it would be better if Manda was good about this and not the way i think she will be and make it harder then it has to be when to time comes for me to move .
manda doesnt understand i love Wendy with all my heart and i feel alive again when im with her .she also needs to understand that the empty life i have at the moment sucks i cant just keep sitting at home waiting for my once a week for two and half hour visit from her and the grandchildren it feels like im a bother to everyone and no one whats to come visit me or call me execept when they need something then im the most important person to them .
im going to live with Wendy here im loved and i feel important i think about Wendy all the time and i miss her every second of every day and i know she feels the same way so we are changing the way we live .
mandy can make it easy or make it hard its up to her
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