Big boobs and peace

Today is my son's 15th birthday and I'm very proud of him. He's been through a lot, but he has a family who encourages him, and loves him very much. We took him to Hooters last night, and with all the beautiful girls in their tight fitting clothes he was in heaven. He had his picture taken with almost every server in there.
Things have changed a lot over these years since my ex-wife and I separated. I'd like to think things are getting better all the time, but maybe it's wishful thinking on my part. I do like to hope for the best.
We all got together for my son, and we all put away our pride and differences for the sake of doing something to make someone else happy. I can only hope this will continue to be more common. All sitting around the same table was my ex-wife and I, her parents (my ex-inlaws), my ex-wife's brother, my ex-wife's off-and-on, incredibly needy boyfriend (who I like), my partner Richard, mutual friends of my ex and I and their son who is a friend on my son's... Whew! And all went very well.
My ex-father in law was actually having a full conversation with me. My ex-mother in law (who I know loves me, and truly wants to see both her daughter and I both happy) was gabbing away with my partner Richard. My ex-brother in law was friendly (and closeted) as he usually is. ONE DAY he'll come out, but because of his parent's initial reaction to me, it'll take him a while before he feels safe enough to do it (assuming he ever admits it to himself).
My ex and I used to work in theater with our mutual friends. My ex beat me to the punch and started working with them before I got the chance to. Richard and I went to the opening of their play my wife had directed for. The production was unusual because I know her style and couldn't see her imprint. It was almost as if the play was flying on autopilot, but it's probably my imagination.
Our friends approached me to start working with them again, but I'm hesitant because it would mean the possibility of work directly with my ex at some point. And while I could do it, I wouldn't want any major conflicts, so I'm not sure yet.The best part of the whole evening was the feeling of a unified family for my son. We've gotten together in the past for things, but this time it was different. This was more peaceful... more natural.
Can D├ętente really turn into lasting peace? I really hope so.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Sounds like the ice may be thinning Chuck. Who knows you and she may be able to do more with your son if you had something of a routine where you saw more of each other now that things are more firmed up. You have more definite boundries now maybe. Course what do I know :-)
L8bloomer
L8bloomer

I am very pleased to hear this worked out for you and your son. It\'s really great your ex-in-laws have seen that being cold, bitter, and holding grudges doesn\'t help anyone along the way. This gives me hope. Give some extra thought to the Should I, or Shouldn\'t I go to work at the theater...It sounds like something you would really enjoy. Maybe you can start small to test the waters?
deleted_user
deleted_user

I was happy for the peace you and your ex are finding again.

I must say, however, that I had a hard time focusing on that (the major point) after the first few lines. I was touched to here your son was with his dad on his 15th birthday, smling and saying happy birthday and all....UNTIL... LOL... I read that he had been taken to \"hooters\" to celebrate it....WHAT!!!!!...I said, he\'s only 15 years old. Then, I said, but wait, hooters, that\'s just probably one of those fancy creative names to draw people in for good food at a good restaraunt.. [we Pisces folks...always trying to think the best when we already know better] LOL...only to have to put that theory to rest by reading the very next phrase. I was in a daze the rest of the way. Maybe, I\'m old fashion. But in retrospect, I was the first to take my brother to a female strip club -- he was shocked even though he was older. but I loved it!. But we were both in our late teens. All, I can hope for now is that these women had plenty of clothes on :-) I want to ask a question, but I feel it may not be appropriate for journal responses...suffice it to ask for now: Was Hooters his mother\'s idea?

Never-the-less, some GREAT other things seemed to have come out of this and I wish you and your son will have many more happy days together such as this one turned out to be.
deleted_user
deleted_user

So happy with you, yay!!! :))))
(My parents were \'naturalists\' once, I\'ve learnt about human anatomy quite early :P :))), so I\'m used to these twists ;), hehe.)
ChuckStraight
ChuckStraight

\"Hooters\" is a nation-wide family restaurant. It began as a randy bar/grill where the waitresses wore skin-tight tops and short-shorts, appealing to the \"blue collar\" crowd. In time, the chain evolved into a sports grill where you could take the family. The girl\'s outfits remained tight-fitting tank tops and shorts, but while deliberately tacky, it\'s definitely \"corporate\" so as not to offend grandma too much. Exciting for the younger crowd, but pretty boring to a crowd looking to see a lot of skin.