Becoming More Assertive

Wednesday, September 30, 2009 - 6:30 PM Although I seem to be fighting off a cold, or the flu, I am managing to do a few things each day. I feel that it is better for me to be active as much as possible, rather than to sit around doing nothing, and letting my body go to waste.   I called my mental health therapist, Dale, and left a voicemail for him letting him know that I did not call and arrange to have a CNA go on a trip with me during the month of October.   Shortly after doing that, I received an e-mail from my psychologist, Dr. Martin, reminding me that I was not supposed to see her this week because she had to attend a conference. I wrote back telling her that I had not forgotten.  I also told her of my decision not to go on my vacation during October, but had decided to stick with my original decision to go during April. I sent a copy of the e-mail to Dale because I wanted both of them to be on the same page with regard to what I was going to do. I have not received a reply from either of them, but I am not surprised at this.   I intend to write to my brother tomorrow, telling him about this decision as well. He probably will not like what I have to say, but I'm not too enthusiastic with some of the things he had to say to Dale and Dr. Martin about me as well. In fact, I do not intend to have further family counseling sessions with my brother in the near future.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Nice work, Jim! This is wonderful. You have every right to decide when and where you go on vacation and for how long. You set those boundaries and don\'t let anyone cross them.

Your brother. Ugh. I had hopes things would work out but I hate to say I\'m not surprised they don\'t seem to be. He is really out to lunch, in my opinion.
JimK
JimK

I just sent my brother an e-mail notifying him that I have decided to take my vacation during April. I doubt if he will like that too much, but he will have to get used to it. At least I do not have to take him with me whenever I go!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I\'m still wanting to know why October? Were they planning a birthday surprise or something?

It\'s YOUR trip. I don\'t get why they don\'t get that.

And yet I do, because they are who they are.

Hugs and Mojo
Weebs
JimK
JimK

I think my therapists feel that since it\'s been about six years since I\'ve gone anywhere, I need to go SOON and get away from a lot of the stress I\'ve been under. I understand their point of view, but I\'m going when I\'m good and ready - and NOT before then!