Bad talks...
Your maturity and your ability to listen is the prime reason I don't want to be with you. You hanging up today, was the perfect symbol of that. I'm sorry I yelled, but I gave you a chance for 10 years, to better yourself, to get an education and to become the woman I thought you could. You were crippled by depression and when confronted with it, you made excuses and everything else fell by the wayside. I tried to pick you up, I tried to help but I couldn't last. I cracked under the pressure of carrying your burdens... and now we're here and we have a son that we have to equally care for. It's time to put your big girl pants on, stop pointing fingers and move on to whatever life has next for us.
Just another bad text I recieved from my husband, I am seeing that he sees nothing wrong with him but only that he is blaming everything that he did on me and that is the only reason that he cheated 4 times. Who does that? Who cheats so much and always blames the other? Only a narcissist and I am done being the victim. I am goig to make my life better for my son's sake and my own. I am going to go back to school and be a better person than I ever had a chanc eto be with my husband because I am worth more than being told I am not lovable everyday and sometimes every hour... I am lovable and worth someone's world I will find the person I was supposed to be with that I am to be loved by. I will be the woman that raises my son and shows him what a real man does for the woman in his life. I will teach him love everyday and tell him never to cheat on anyone ever...
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you got this - stay strong!
Thank you! I am going to try... Starting out this week I have a plan to work and do school daily! I will be all that my son needs me to be and make things great for him. I will find happiness again and love it.
You ask who does this, well my wife is currently doing it think 4 people too, getting a lot of blame for nothing myself.
It sucks but I'm enjoying telling her to lower her voice because I've done nothing wrong.
Like you I've been working on myself, though I'm working on my body and social life, feels good to have me back in my life.
Keep up the good work and don't let a cheaters words get to you, you didn't make him do it, its a choice, they made the choice.
Allathar I'm sorry you are going through this too!
It's hard knowing that you didn't cause this but hearing that you did hurts so much. Especially when it is over the last 8 years.
Looking back I wish I had left after the first time but than I would not have my son and he's great I just fear with a dad like he has he may do the same one day.
It's also hard because we now live in a time where cheating is becoming more excepted and not always looked at like it is wrong. It's hard because more people are asking for open marriage and I am not one to agree that this movement is right. I believe each couple should be faithful to each other that is all not add people.
Hope things get better for you!