bad body image
I went into tthe hospital for cutting. I even cut my self in hospital. Anythiing plastic, i used. I havnt cut sence last week. But cuts are all on my belly. I staartt a new gym membership. Toddday. I hate my stomach area. I have a bad body imageof myyself. I need ssupport but my husband. Dosnt show much caring, he is like not there for support. He disttances himself from me.i wish he would say supportive things. Not feeling good about working out.
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That is great your haven\'t cut since last week. I hope you are seeing a therapist that is helpful. Good for you for starting a new gym membership. That should help you feel better and improve your body image. It is hard but important to love ourselves with our flaws and all. I have a hard time with that too. Sorry that your husband is not supportive. Can you tell him you need his support? I hope you feel better. hugs
Sweetie, I\'m so sorry you feel that way about yourself. I hope you have a therapist, if not, that would be number one priority for support.
I\'m glad you joined a gym, it will help with your body image. So sorry you have a dead beat husband who doesn\'t take interest, it helps so much when they do. Maybe he will change when he sees all the work you are doing.
Working out is hard, but once you get into it, it becomes addictive and then suddenly it helps your mood and self image. Hugs to you and hope you do feel better,.
I am sorry you do not have support from your husband. do you have other family who do support you? your family doctor can get you to the right support. that is very important. a friends daughter cut herself. and I would talk to her as family friend. family were scared, not sure what to say and blamed themselves for her cutting habit. I found the family who seemed not to support her were \'scared\'. and \'blamed themselves\' which was taken bay the daughter that no one cared. your hubby should have someone to talk to and talk to him also...I sure hope he does for your sake and his in the marriage. I am glad you did get to hospital . it may take some time, but I hope the right doctor works with you to find out what you are feeling before you cut. or what you can figure out leads up to this each time. once that is found, healing can begin. my friends daughter had very bad body image. she had been bullied in school. she made some bad judgement calls, ran with some bad people, and was sorry for this, but secretly had been cutting for some time. one time, she passed out. how family found her. it took some time, but she is married and has a beautiful daughter. some times she said she feels herself, going back to that thought when she cut, but now has coping skills. prayers Angie for you and mega hugs. sometimes we can be our own worse enemies. I am sure you have, but have you told your hubbie you are scared of your behavior and you need him to help you..i am sure you already have. reason I wrote this, as friends daughter did not ask or express she was in pain emotionally. had not told any one about her body image. or the bully at school or work. just guessing here. maybe he is at lost for words or feels helpless of what to do or say to you. as soon as I read your post , I thought of Nicki. what did I learn from them to help you. I guess reach out and communicate would have helped them. anyone else in your family can approach hubby? maybe sharing could help every one. when Nicki\'s family started to listen every one started to heal. thanks for opening up to us.
this society ...teaches girls that only one..bodie type ..is what ..they schould look like or strive for ...it is very. .unrealistic ..........and after you have babies ....your body ..is not the same ....but the way I look at it is ....I look at the beautifull children I have and I wouldent Chang a thing .....the ones ..on tv ...that ..they ...set up ..girls and women to fail again and again .....have lots of money ...so they can spend ..as much time in the Jim ..as they want ..they can afford the best food and cooks ..to cook ..then ...a proper ...diet ..to keep them slim .............and the best of clothing ..to hide any ...thing ....they don\'t like they also go for ...couse metic surgery ......face lifts ..belly tucks boob jobs ......if we had axcess ..to all these things ...we would look good to ....and hairdressers ....and when you see pictures of some of them with out all the make up ....they don\'t even look like the same people ...................depreshion ....is all about negitiveity .....so depending how depressed ..I am ...will depend on how ugly I think I am ....on the better days ..I will look in the mirrior ...and I think I don\'t look to bad at all .......but I don\'t stay in front of the mirrior for long ......I don\'t ware make up ...unless I am going to a weading ......my h likes me with out makeup .......I am realy sorry that you don\'t have suport from your husband ...I am blessed in that I do have suport from my husband ......but I did have to take him in to see my phicatrist ..several times ...when he was doing things that were just not helping ...me ...and to tell him what he could do instead to help me. ...........I am on a bipolar med ...but I am mostly depressed ..my migrains ..don\'t let me get to excited ..because that will give me a migrain ....but with bi poles .....the ones who are close to you ..schould ..go to ...meatings ...with your phicitrist ....so they can be educated on bipolar ...and ..how to help ..you ....my son is bipolar ..my and my h...and his wife ..did ..that ...we learned a lot ......so ..he ..was...on meds for a year .....and than got weaned off with his doctor ....so now ...his wife and children will tell him ..if he isent behaving right if he is going high or low ..and he does what he needes to do to get back to ware he schould be ........he also watches hid diet ..nothing artificial ....no pop ...or very little same for junk food ....no caned food .....frozen or fresh ....goes to bed at the same time every night and gets up at the same time in the morning ...each day .....takes his time doing things ...works steady ..but carfull ...and ..so far so good .......it has been ..10 years now ........I think we need to concentrat on who we are on the inside ....and learn to love our self ....and axcept our self that doesent mean we schouldent ....try to improve our selves .....but learning to love ....and love unconditionly ..is realy why we are here ....that is my thinking ..and way .......take very good care of your self ......be kind to your self ...................................see if your husband would be interested ...in ....seeing the phicitrist ..with ..you ....and get educated ......he might be pulling away because he just can\'t understand .....people who have never experanced depreshion .....just have no idea what we go through ........take care ..God bless ......I hope your husband .....startes being supportive ...for you .......I will praye ..for that ......I will keep you in my thoughts and my prayers .....God bless ..
I think we all have a negative body image. Its just something that is forced on us by society and the media. I find journalling and getting a plan is what helps me the most. For example for me....and my belly fat. No I don\'t like it...at all. But instead of thinking that I am bad or fat or ugly. I just say I don\'t like it what can I do to change it. Its a fact at this moment but it doesn\'t have to be a sentence forever. I can do for walks or do exercise videos or eat more vegetables. etc.....hooray for you for joining a gym.
I know how hard it is to not have a husband who stands up for you and encourages you. That too is a sad fact of life. Truly what we need must come from within. If we can take care of and love our inner child. Then we can start to live from a place of love and encouragement. No one else can make us happy. I too am too attached to my daughter. It is hard to let go and let her grow up. Everyday...its hard. But she is not my identity anymore. I have to forge a new identity of mom to an adult. If she doesn\'t want me to interfere or hug her I have to accept it and know its not about me its about her. In few days or weeks she will need me...so I just try and breathe and go with her flow.
It is so hard when we want to just be wives and mothers and not self. Self is beautiful and now is when you can look at you and love you even if its only in small ways. hugs my dear.