Awful day
Hi Carlos:
I wish you were here to give me a hug and tell me everything is going to be okey. Our kids decided to battle it out today. They got into one big fight over something stupid regarding the guy who came to fix the dryer. He ripped us off and I ended up purchasing another one. Well, Said wanted the guy to come over and still repair it or return our money which the guy refused and Said called me hollering and being mean with me saying the most awful things. Rosela got upset and told him not to talk to me that way. He started calling her names and she responded back and it got out of control. He locked her out of the house and the neighbours saw it and I called your brother to go over there. He calmed them down and they both had called the cops who told them that he would arrest both of them if the don't calm down. Rosela chose to leave the house because she refuses to live with Said around her. It is so hard to see them fighting with each other. I know if you were here they would not have done this and everything would be okey. I am so hurt because this is not the way they were raised and I feel that everything is just going wrong since you are no longer here. I just wish to disappear and go far away from both of them. I met with Rosela for lunch and she said that Said was going crazy and she is concern he may be doing some type of drugs because he has never acted like this before. She told me that he was acting crazy and punching the wall. The cops saw your picture and asked them where you are and both of them responded that you had passed away. He told them that he knows that they both are learning to deal with the loss but that if you were around you would be so hurt and embarrassed by the spectacle they had done. Carlos, I miss you and don't know what to do with both of our kids. I just wish they grow up and change. Rosela was crying because she will not be able to be around Aleena for a while. I know that they both love each other but have strong personalities and need to control themselves. I miss your hugs and words of comfort. Things were easier when you were here. Why are these kids behaving this way? What am I suppose to do, Carlos? You were always the wise one and now I am lost. I hate this life and wonder if it is worth it. I need you desperately here with me, ask God to let you come visit me, please even if it is in my dreams. I love you and miss you dearly.
I wish you were here to give me a hug and tell me everything is going to be okey. Our kids decided to battle it out today. They got into one big fight over something stupid regarding the guy who came to fix the dryer. He ripped us off and I ended up purchasing another one. Well, Said wanted the guy to come over and still repair it or return our money which the guy refused and Said called me hollering and being mean with me saying the most awful things. Rosela got upset and told him not to talk to me that way. He started calling her names and she responded back and it got out of control. He locked her out of the house and the neighbours saw it and I called your brother to go over there. He calmed them down and they both had called the cops who told them that he would arrest both of them if the don't calm down. Rosela chose to leave the house because she refuses to live with Said around her. It is so hard to see them fighting with each other. I know if you were here they would not have done this and everything would be okey. I am so hurt because this is not the way they were raised and I feel that everything is just going wrong since you are no longer here. I just wish to disappear and go far away from both of them. I met with Rosela for lunch and she said that Said was going crazy and she is concern he may be doing some type of drugs because he has never acted like this before. She told me that he was acting crazy and punching the wall. The cops saw your picture and asked them where you are and both of them responded that you had passed away. He told them that he knows that they both are learning to deal with the loss but that if you were around you would be so hurt and embarrassed by the spectacle they had done. Carlos, I miss you and don't know what to do with both of our kids. I just wish they grow up and change. Rosela was crying because she will not be able to be around Aleena for a while. I know that they both love each other but have strong personalities and need to control themselves. I miss your hugs and words of comfort. Things were easier when you were here. Why are these kids behaving this way? What am I suppose to do, Carlos? You were always the wise one and now I am lost. I hate this life and wonder if it is worth it. I need you desperately here with me, ask God to let you come visit me, please even if it is in my dreams. I love you and miss you dearly.
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Oh Linda I so understand..It seems our whole life has turned upside down...I decided to distance myself from everyone that is in drama...It has helped but increased my aloneness...We have just lost so much...Hang in there my friend...
I am so sorry Linda, but your children are hurting also, and don\'t know how to cope with it. Their world was turned upside down also. Please take care of yourself, wishing you and your children the peace that you are looking for. Hugs Rhonda
Kids have their fights and you get in the middle of it. You get all upset and they get over it..you remain upset. Parenting isn\'t easy even more difficult alone. I do hope there aren\'t drugs involved, that is a completely different problem but in todays environment, very real. I hope things get resolved for you quickly.
Hugs Linda
I am so sorry. Parenting isn\'t easy especially when we are alone. I hope that things get better for you all. We lived in Canyon Country before we moved out here to Nevada. Pretty area. Hugs to you, Dawn
Hoping for brighter days for you. Hugs, Kip.
Linda - please don\'t assume that if Carlos were here, things would be all good. Not true. Yes, of course it would be easier (like, duh??), but still. Give yourself some credit, a lot of credit, for holding it together these past almost 2 years. I\'ve seen the changes in you these last years, and I think you\'re doing an incredible job.
Linda
Can you have a heart to heart talk with them (one on one) and explain to them that you know they are hurting and that it is tearing your heart apart and perhaps ask if they would try counciling. Tell them that everyone is herring and that each needs the support of each other. With regards to the repair guy tell him you either want it fixed or your mony back otherwise you will take him to court. You can file a complaint. You can report him to the better business bureau. You can also file complaint with the states attorney general. I would call the repairman advise him you will give him one last chance otherwise you are contacting the attorney general. Unfortunatey there are those out there that will rip you off. When I need something done in the house I contact friends and use their recommendations if they have dealt with them. Good luck. I will pray for you and your family that they find some comfort and peace. Take care. Maria