Aunt Flo
Aunt Flo arrived today. I thought...just maybe this might be THE time...according to charting I was expecting Auntie on Monday...I'd been having some weird stomach aches and coffee was making me sick...so I was hopeful. Disappointed today. Had a discussion about adoption with my oldest SIL last night. It was ok. I get kind of tongue tied with stuff. Everyone likes to give you their stories about adoption rather than hearing what you are going through. I believe it shocked her a bit to hear we are going to have to take out a loan. I'm hoping my inlaws will start to understand how hard this really is. She said her gay BIL adopted two boys from the foster system and she had written a letter of recommendation for them. I thought that was nice...her husband didn't agree with his brother adopting two boys since he is gay...but my SIL thought he and his partner would be good parents so she wrote the letter. I thought that was really nice. She also told me about meeting a woman in the hospital adopting a methadone baby and how she paid $40000. Adoption shouldn't cost so much. It seems so wrong...they are humans....I really don't get our adoption system in the US. There is too much profit to be had by these agencies. Of course she also said "well you know once you adopt you will get pregnant". I tried to tell her that it was like 1% that happens to...but she thought it was a great thing to say and repeated it. Oh well...it was nice she asked me about it. I hope family starts asking more...I like talking about adoption and what we are going through. I feel hopeful about it....its like announcing your pregnant...only a long ways off! I hope our local agency has their orientation soon. They are the last one I was interested in. I think I will call them today to see if it is "fall" yet. They said they'd have a meeting in the "fall". I feel they are a bit more ethical in that they only accept families wanting to adopt within 70 miles of the agency. The TX agency I called to have a phone orientation never called me back...so I guess I will forget about them.
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Sorry to hear about Aunt Flo. I completely understand about having to take out a loan for the adoption. I\'m starting out with a 0% interest credit card and going from their. I\'m also trying to find ways to raise money. It is very unfair that adoption is so expensive. People at work ask me what I\'m buying with working so much overtime. I joke around and say a baby, but it really is the truth.
As for the comment \"well you know once you adopt you will get pregnant\". My new Ob doctor said that to me. It\'s like did you look at my chart and see I\'ve had 4 miscarriage. What do you say to that?
You will be in my thoughts and prayers through your adoption and I\'m happy that your SIL is being so understanding.
I\'m sorry AF showed. It is always so hard, even when you just have a little hope. I think it\'s great that your SIL has been supportive even though she did have that comment. I think people say things like that just to have something to say.
Good luck with the \"fall\" meeting. I hope they have it soon!
So sorry that AF came. I\'m happy to hear that you are marching on with adoption. You deserve to be and will be a mother...period! Best of luck to you...