Attitudes
So upset today.
Working cutting hours and I am low man on the totem pole as I just joined this office.
Come home to find 3 extra people for dinner. My middle son I was ok with as he got laid off in the middle of the day from his part time job. He works for the same company I do. Just told to stay home for two weeks. He was supposed to work last night. At least he got told at 11am before he went in. The three that were at my work got called and two of them had to clock out and leave immediately. One was new and she got told there were no hours so not to come back.
The other two at my house told me that morning they would not be there. So what to do about supper. Told them I had not plan for everyone. They said that's ok and instead of coming into the kitchen and looking to make something like they said they would if they showed up unexpectedly they went in the living room and sat down. Well what to do. I had steaks out for me and the youngest, but only two and 5 people. So started making grilled cheese. My middle son could see I was upset and started helping.
Oldest and girl just sat down. I asked if they wanted a sandwich, but didn't hear an answer. So middle asked loudly if they wanted one. They yelled yes back at him. Then he asked if they wanted one or two, no answer so he shouted it. They yelled back in angry voices. Well I heard nothing from them. Asked youngest later and he said they didn't answer. Then supper done and he said supper. I heard no answer, so he yelled again. They shouted back they were coming and that they said so. They were busy they said figuring out homework and taxes.
I told them I did not here them either, but girl kept sniping at everything middle said. Wanted to throw her out of the house. I made middle stop talking to them, but was them that should have shut up.
So tired of everyone, youngest, oldest, girl, husband, my mother, being down on middle son. He is loud, he is argumentative. He has ADHD and oppositional defiance, but he loves me and he makes sure I know it. He "sees". He notices when I am sick, when I am stressed or have a headache. He is the only one to ask if I am ok ever. He comes in the kitchen to help me get something on the table when people decided to show up and don't call first or offer to cook something. He is the only one to graduate from college so far. Oldest dropped out, youngest is flunking. He married a really sweet girl and is doing well. And he had to fight through the ADHD for everything. But all they see is he is loud and demanding.
I am so angry with everyone and oldest has been snappish at me. Asked this morning if he had to go in late to work again as he was still on my couch 5 minutes later than he usually leave and he goes "yes OR all week". Like I know that. He was working it yesterday, but did not say it was all week. He tells me nothing any more. Used to talk to me on facebook,b ut since girl moved in I never hear from him. He shows up here to see her, but mostly they snuggle and whisper on the couch and then take naps. I never have a conversation with him. Don't know why he is being snappish, but sure don't like it.
I am going to be late for work if I don't move. Guess if they cut my hours I will have more time to be on here. Sigh.
Working cutting hours and I am low man on the totem pole as I just joined this office.
Come home to find 3 extra people for dinner. My middle son I was ok with as he got laid off in the middle of the day from his part time job. He works for the same company I do. Just told to stay home for two weeks. He was supposed to work last night. At least he got told at 11am before he went in. The three that were at my work got called and two of them had to clock out and leave immediately. One was new and she got told there were no hours so not to come back.
The other two at my house told me that morning they would not be there. So what to do about supper. Told them I had not plan for everyone. They said that's ok and instead of coming into the kitchen and looking to make something like they said they would if they showed up unexpectedly they went in the living room and sat down. Well what to do. I had steaks out for me and the youngest, but only two and 5 people. So started making grilled cheese. My middle son could see I was upset and started helping.
Oldest and girl just sat down. I asked if they wanted a sandwich, but didn't hear an answer. So middle asked loudly if they wanted one. They yelled yes back at him. Then he asked if they wanted one or two, no answer so he shouted it. They yelled back in angry voices. Well I heard nothing from them. Asked youngest later and he said they didn't answer. Then supper done and he said supper. I heard no answer, so he yelled again. They shouted back they were coming and that they said so. They were busy they said figuring out homework and taxes.
I told them I did not here them either, but girl kept sniping at everything middle said. Wanted to throw her out of the house. I made middle stop talking to them, but was them that should have shut up.
So tired of everyone, youngest, oldest, girl, husband, my mother, being down on middle son. He is loud, he is argumentative. He has ADHD and oppositional defiance, but he loves me and he makes sure I know it. He "sees". He notices when I am sick, when I am stressed or have a headache. He is the only one to ask if I am ok ever. He comes in the kitchen to help me get something on the table when people decided to show up and don't call first or offer to cook something. He is the only one to graduate from college so far. Oldest dropped out, youngest is flunking. He married a really sweet girl and is doing well. And he had to fight through the ADHD for everything. But all they see is he is loud and demanding.
I am so angry with everyone and oldest has been snappish at me. Asked this morning if he had to go in late to work again as he was still on my couch 5 minutes later than he usually leave and he goes "yes OR all week". Like I know that. He was working it yesterday, but did not say it was all week. He tells me nothing any more. Used to talk to me on facebook,b ut since girl moved in I never hear from him. He shows up here to see her, but mostly they snuggle and whisper on the couch and then take naps. I never have a conversation with him. Don't know why he is being snappish, but sure don't like it.
I am going to be late for work if I don't move. Guess if they cut my hours I will have more time to be on here. Sigh.
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throw their sorry asses out of your house. if they cant treat you with respect they have no right to be there. it is not your job anymore to take care of them. my disabled son still lives at home but he pays room and board and helps out around the house when he is not at school or work. they need a wake up call.
That sucks on so many levels. I would have taken the middle son out to dinner and left everyone else to figure it out for themselves.