As one of our friends on DS Said
I never thought of it this way, but aren't we the most lucky mother's in the world to have been chosen to be the mother of our children. Even though their life was taken too soon and our pain is so deep, what if we had not gotten to be their mother.
Of course, we would not be going through this pain, then again maybe we would have, but I would never ever take away being Ken's mom. I loved him, he loved me. We had a special bond as all of us do with our children. To be Ken's mom and my other boys mom is the best I could have asked for in life, other than Ken being here with us longer.
I know each feel we have the best children in this world and the world beyond and we do, but I know I could never have had better children than I do. They are giving, caring and loving and always give to others in need.
So even though our pain is deep and seems to hurt every minute of the day, what if we had never had the chance to be their mother.
Many years ago, I dated a famous now Nascar Racer. One day when I told my kids they said gee mom "Why didn't you marry him, we would be rich".. I said but if I had married him, you would not be you and I would rather have you then all the money in the world.
So even though this heartache is so indescrible, I was Kenny's mom and that I am forever greatful that God chose me to be his mom. So Ken even though you left me way too soon, thanks for being my wonderful son.
Love, your mom!!!!! Forever Ken's mom.
Forever, Jeffrey, Brent and Shawn's mom too!!! I love my boys!!!!!
Of course, we would not be going through this pain, then again maybe we would have, but I would never ever take away being Ken's mom. I loved him, he loved me. We had a special bond as all of us do with our children. To be Ken's mom and my other boys mom is the best I could have asked for in life, other than Ken being here with us longer.
I know each feel we have the best children in this world and the world beyond and we do, but I know I could never have had better children than I do. They are giving, caring and loving and always give to others in need.
So even though our pain is deep and seems to hurt every minute of the day, what if we had never had the chance to be their mother.
Many years ago, I dated a famous now Nascar Racer. One day when I told my kids they said gee mom "Why didn't you marry him, we would be rich".. I said but if I had married him, you would not be you and I would rather have you then all the money in the world.
So even though this heartache is so indescrible, I was Kenny's mom and that I am forever greatful that God chose me to be his mom. So Ken even though you left me way too soon, thanks for being my wonderful son.
Love, your mom!!!!! Forever Ken's mom.
Forever, Jeffrey, Brent and Shawn's mom too!!! I love my boys!!!!!
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Thank you for sharing to us right from your heart. you always will be ken\'s mom.
Really nice. I know I\'m a better person for having the sheer luck of being Dana, Shaun & Joshuas mom. Inspiring sweetheart. Nascar Racer? Whoa.......xoxoxo
Well said---If I had it to do over, I still would have wanted to be Tim\'s mom. In spite of his problems, he was a wonderful and caring friend to many people. Although he was a challenge to us at times (!) the good times far outweighed the bad. Thank you for sharing your perspective! Hugs, Diane
Well said---If I had it to do over, I still would have wanted to be Tim\'s mom. In spite of his problems, he was a wonderful and caring friend to many people. Although he was a challenge to us at times (!) the good times far outweighed the bad. Thank you for sharing your perspective! Hugs, Diane
I have often thought of how lucky I was to have my Cory. How lucky for you too, Sandi, to have had Ken. Bless you!
I agree.
It was and is a privilege. Thank you for a positive way to look at our motherhood and precious children. Peace to you today and a hug. Joanie
This is amazing and I feel the same I am so proud to be Anthony\'s Matt\'s and Isabel\'s mom... love to you my friend.
I love your entry. At my sons funeral I wrote a simple paragraph to be read. I don\'t remember the exact words but I remember feeling and writing in those first few days after his death that I knew my son belonged to a loving father in heaven who \"loaned\" him to me as a gift to take care of in this earthly life however long that may be until he needed him to return home. How could he not want him back? How could the Lord not want all of these wonderful spirits back with him. I feel grateful to have been blessed to be his mother however short the time. It warms my heart to know you feel that gratitude as well. Love to you. Robin
Couldn\'t have said it better myself - so very true...Thanks.
Like they say \"To love and to have lost is better than to have never loved at all\". The love will never die and I will cherish being Denise\'s mom forever. Thank you for inspiration. Truly, your friend, Barb
Like they say \"To love and to have lost is better than to have never loved at all\". The love will never die and I will cherish being Denise\'s mom forever. Thank you for inspiration. Truly, your friend, Barb
Very wise words...I am honored to have been Alex\'s mom...even if it were only for 22 years...love to you...Karen
YOU ARE GOING THRU THE HARDEST TIME RIGHT NOW WHEN ROZ. PASSED I WAS IN THE WORST STATE THE FIRST 3YRS. I HAD MY SISTER THAANK GOD EVERY DAY WE TALKED FOR HOURS ABOUT HOW ROZ. DIED THE SUFFERIN, SHE ENDURED, AND THE PAIN I WAS IN TODAY I WAS JUST SITTING ON THE BED AND STARTED TO CRY. I HAVE NO MORE CHILDREN NO GRAND KIDS NO FAMILY BUT EVEN IF I DID. I CARRIED HER 9 MONTHS SHE WAS PART OF ME MY BLOOD MY SEET BABY GIRL. I WILL NEVER NEVER FORGET HER LET HER MEMORY FADE FROM MY MIND. MY LIFE IS SO EMPTY NOW GOD BLESS YOUR DEAR KENNY AND BLESS MY ROZ. BOTH SUFFERED SO MUCH AND SO YOUNG. HUGS ZZZTOP/CHAECO
Everything you have ALL said has really given my tear ducts a work out! My son
could also be a bit of a challenge at times, but the good times definitely far outweighed the difficult ones, and I\'d do it all over again in a heartbeat, even if I knew how it was going to end... Hugs, Cherie