arrest

Yesterday we received an envelope in the mail addressed to our son T.  It said for it to only be opened by the addressee that included a return address from what looked like a law firm.  What? I couldn't resist.  After opening it I saw that it was advertising material - advertising their services.  In the letter it said based on public court records, they found that he has a charge ~ drug abuse.  I looked it up on-line and sure enough; it was a misdemeanor charge for possession of marijuana dated the Sunday of Labor Day weekend.  He hasn't said a word to us but it might explain part of his old behavior coming through more.  He didn't come home last night.
I wondered if I should have told my husband or not.  I did and immediately he's talking about hiring a lawyer or asking our lawyer friend to help.  He also wanted to talk to T about it.  I begged him "NO!!".  I told him that we cannot interfere.  If he wants to tell us - fine.  I'll will drive him there.  I even resent having to pay court costs but we will do that.  If he doesn't tell us and doesn't show up he knows there will be a warrant out for his arrest.  That didn't sit well with my husband but I told him that we need to let him manage it.  If we cover for him ~ I used the old "obscene" word "enable" him, so he agreed not to say anything.  T-Man is supposed to go to court on Tuesday.  He may tell us because he has no choice.  What's weird is ~ he knows we know about his usage and he's open about believing that pot should be legalized.  I don't know why he's holding back.  So we will see - either I'm driving him to school that morning or court.  We will see.......