Arguments

So many times I've read about people in our group arguing about this or that.  Althought I've never been a part of it, I've spent a lifetime arguing with my father.  Then I read a book that changed my life.  It's by Joyce Meyers and it's about strife and how to get it out of our lives.  It's a religious book, written with many bible quotes.  I'd say there's nothing I shouldn't have figured out on my own, but I didn't. 
There was one profound point she made:  Jesus never defended himself. 
So what should we do?  The answer, let God defend us.
I started doing that immediately with my father.  Before, we argued daily, especially over the last 6 months.  Each time I felt in the right and so did he.  We said hurtful things, even words we didn't mean.  In the end, anger clouded our thoughts and deeds.  We were like wild animals, instincts guiding us.  Then I found this book and changed.  And the next time my father started an argument, I did not take the bait.  Instead, I let God defend me.  I threw aside my own pride to do this.  The next day, my father said I was right.  He'd taken the time to think about it overnight and came to this conclusion. 
This has been repeated several times.  Sometimes it's me who discovers he was right and I was wrong. 
The book is called Conflict Free Living.  I'm still reading it on my Kindle.  If only I had found this book years ago.