Another sad day
Yes,, it's another sad day for me. Just got back from the beach when in my heart I know I should have stayed home. Went for the boys because I missed them terribly. I guess I thought there was a crumb of hope to save the marriage..we even went out for a drink and watched the football games. However, upon checking the phone bill online, I saw he called her and texted, especially when I or his family wasn't around. Could they not just do this on vacation! Then to boot he got this overwhelming smile and his demeanor changed when I told him I got a full time job with benefits. Probably saying "Now I can get rid of you". Now he can tell his whore that I got the job and they can be together, yada yada. I didn't want to tell him I even got the job but I had to cuz eventually I have to start work. I hate him...I love him somewhere inside and I know it's wrong. I just wish they wouldn't make fun of me...that is what hurts me to the core.
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So sorry your trip had to be spoiled by finding that out but it appears as if he is definitely not ever going to give this up, especially if he has to be texting and calling her during a FAMILY weekend. Ugh, mine resorted to texting and calling her pig while we were having a family night and I ran into the store for two minutes to pick up a cake. It really is an addiction, just like alcoholism or crack or gambling.
He may be thinking that but what you need to be thinking about is what this can do for YOU. Obviously he isn\'t going to come around and drop the whore so be thinking proactively here, L. Think about what YOU can do to start planning on a life for you and your boys WITHOUT him. I\'m not saying you have to file and move out tomorrow, but don\'t wait for him to take action. Tell him that you are tired of his disrespectful and sleazy affair and that you are not going to let him disrespect you any longer.
Will this all be difficult? Sure, but isn\'t living like this difficult also?
Take the focus off of worrying about them and put it on protecting yourself and moving on.
I agree with Dad..... please think of ways to make your life easier in the long run!
Do not hang out at the beach with him, sweetie! NO CONTACT as much as possible. You can\'t change him. He is with someone else. You don\'t want to be his sloppy seconds...you can do better than this! You need to get angry, dear!! stop checking the phone stuff and just assume he is still talking to her. That should help in your anger department (I hope). I am so sorry you feel he is making fun of you. (((HUGS))))
DWH is right--start thinking about life without him. We can do this!!!