Another Milestone
Okay, here's a short entry for once. (Hey, wipe that smile off your face!) Enjoy it while you can.
Last week Gabi reached a new milestone in her healing. As we were talking in bed one night, she made the statement that she didn't love the OM anymore like she used to.
I heard her say it, and was busy thinking back if she'd ever said that. Then she said something along the lines of, "Did you hear that? I don't love him anymore." Like she was saying it to herself as much as me. Like until that moment, the thought or realization hadn't really hit her.
She felt it was a big shift for her to feel that way. Sure she hopes he is well off and healing from all this as well, but that love and spark is no longer there for her, that feeling that looks back and laments what she lost in the situation. She doesn't love him anymore.
So mark it at 8.75 months from dday, she's lost all feelings of love for the OM. As they say in Missiouri, "Progress as Promised." :D
Last week Gabi reached a new milestone in her healing. As we were talking in bed one night, she made the statement that she didn't love the OM anymore like she used to.
I heard her say it, and was busy thinking back if she'd ever said that. Then she said something along the lines of, "Did you hear that? I don't love him anymore." Like she was saying it to herself as much as me. Like until that moment, the thought or realization hadn't really hit her.
She felt it was a big shift for her to feel that way. Sure she hopes he is well off and healing from all this as well, but that love and spark is no longer there for her, that feeling that looks back and laments what she lost in the situation. She doesn't love him anymore.
So mark it at 8.75 months from dday, she's lost all feelings of love for the OM. As they say in Missiouri, "Progress as Promised." :D
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Wow! You guys have an amazing relationship. I\'m glad that you have this behind you.
Yes, I\'m very glad for her progress. I seriously didn\'t feel we would be this far along by this point, based on what everyone says. Not saying all is perfect, because I still feel the pain and as we\'ve seen recently, that shows up from time to time. I keep waiting for that wall to hit us. But so far, not.
And a lot of credit for why we\'ve come this far this fast, is going to Gabi. She reaffirmed tonight that she still feels what she said a week ago. She\'s really worked hard on herself, and because of that, I feel more secure in our relationship than ever.
someday I hope i can say that. My CS can\'t seem to break off contact because he \"loves\" her and feels bad for how he has hurt her too. This is nice to hear from you guys.
I hope you can say that in the future too, trying. But whether your CS loves her or not, he needs to break off contact before he can expect any healing to take place. As long as contact is going on, he won\'t get to the point of not loving her. My W has only come to that point after having no contact for over 8 months.
I just want a \'like\' button :)