Another issue

As you can tell I have issues out the ass lol I don't know how I would act if there wasn't always some kinda of chaos going on in my life if not my H it's something else but here is my issue for today so if anyone has read my previous post about my story you know a few of my issues what I didn't tell in my story is that my H is a drinker he always has been not an everyday drinker but I guess maybe a binge drinker maybe I need to post this on alcoholism but most of our issues stem from his drinking he has always been a social drinker and I never had an issue with it until the A because one of his nights out with his buddies drinking is what led to the A and all the times he met up with the OW he was drunk he was never contacting her sober so of course for the last 3 years he had cut back on the drinking to maybe once twice a month but when he drinks hes a whole other person now he is drinking at least once a week we have had many conversations about this it's like I trust my sober H and I don't trust the drunk H which I have told him this over and over mind you I had asked my counlser if she thought he was an alcoholic she was an AA counlser and specialized in alcoholism but also family therapy she says possibly but he gets a dwi and has to do classes to which they tell them he isn't an alcoholic but if he doesn't straighten up he will be......so just wondering I think my H has a drinking a problem because all of his bad decision have been with alcohol don't get it twisted alcohol or not I do not blame alcohol for his cheating that's on him solely he mad that choice so is it crazy that I trust him and respect him when he isn't drinking which is 90 percent of the time and that 10 percent when he does drink is when I get obsessive about the infidelity that is the biggest issue beside her not leaving him alone which sometimes I think she is trying to catch him drinking so he will talk to her.....but this all came about because he is away for work right now he comes home tomorrow but he is drinking with his work buddies not at a bar but the house they stay at and he is calling me drunk it just frustrates me cause now I'm sitting here worried that he is gonna try to take off to the bar cause that's his thing he starts drinking and wants to go to the bar to drink more he doesn't know when to stop when starts i dont know maybe I can get some ideas on what I can say different I've tried to get him to go to counseling for his self because he hits some family issues he needs therapy for but he one of those men don't need therapy he can handle stiff on his own.....But when I was going to counseling I recorded one of my sessions for him to listen to because I kept trying to get him to go and he couldn't handle how upset I was he cried and it mad the idea of him going to counseling out of the picture!!!