another fight/make up session
So we're reconciling after having moved to the other bedroom 4 days ago. I really wanted a dog for therapy. I have this need to nurture and my husband hates it. He asked what my pros and cons were, I had no cons. My pros were: something to care for, a pet would be good for walks to get us out more often, and can break up an otherwise very dull summer day, we could train it, have fun with it together. I asked for his pros and cons and he listed all kinds of cons, focusing on the negative like he always does ( I call him Eeyore). He said he had pros but didn't share them. He loves dogs, he has had a few. So, like I always do, I gave in with a very heavy heart. Within a minute of that decision he said he was going to buy a motorcycle. His words 'Well then I'm going to get a motorcycle'. WHAT!? I said. I told him I would not have anything to do with a motorcycle, it's not something we both would enjoy, only him.
I harbored this selfish ideal of his for a day, and something happened that broke the camel's back. It was another selfish act on his part, after putting his dinner plate away he walked off to the computer room. He didn't help me clean up nor did he ask. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I told him he was selfish and inconsiderate. He told me he wasn't my maid......and things went back and forth to the point where I told him I was done. I was going to take my portion from the checking account and leave. He tried to take my phone, we wrestled over it, I ended up putting it in my pants, he tried to get it from me and I screamed 'help' out the open window. He called me 'nuts' closed the window and tried to throw my laptop to the floor. He stole my debit card for fear of wiping out the account, he stole a store credit card and my government ID card. He never raised his hand to hit me, though I punched him in the arm. The emotional abuse can be awful. I couldn't find a letter my son wrote to me. I told my husband that I thought I lost it. He said he had it, he saw it on the table and put it 'away for safe keeping' . He knew how special that letter was to me, yet he hid it. I told him that that was emotional abuse, he said no he was keeping it safe, (lie). I told him it was bad enough that we fight but the abuse had to stop and he agreed. Well, well one small victory.
I harbored this selfish ideal of his for a day, and something happened that broke the camel's back. It was another selfish act on his part, after putting his dinner plate away he walked off to the computer room. He didn't help me clean up nor did he ask. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I told him he was selfish and inconsiderate. He told me he wasn't my maid......and things went back and forth to the point where I told him I was done. I was going to take my portion from the checking account and leave. He tried to take my phone, we wrestled over it, I ended up putting it in my pants, he tried to get it from me and I screamed 'help' out the open window. He called me 'nuts' closed the window and tried to throw my laptop to the floor. He stole my debit card for fear of wiping out the account, he stole a store credit card and my government ID card. He never raised his hand to hit me, though I punched him in the arm. The emotional abuse can be awful. I couldn't find a letter my son wrote to me. I told my husband that I thought I lost it. He said he had it, he saw it on the table and put it 'away for safe keeping' . He knew how special that letter was to me, yet he hid it. I told him that that was emotional abuse, he said no he was keeping it safe, (lie). I told him it was bad enough that we fight but the abuse had to stop and he agreed. Well, well one small victory.
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