Another Day
Stbx called this morning. They will have a bed for him tomorrow at a facility very closeby. I am working tomorrow so his sister will be bringing him. I did get a bit bogged down yesterday--- still not taking charge and control of my own life. And being reminded just how awful it feels to be alone and untouched. Have taken time these past two days for myself. May feel good, but not whole.
Anyhow, trying to make my days ok. In the present right? Look forward to the day when my present is so full and content.
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Since the facility he’s moving to is close by, he can walk home when he’s discharged. Lol. Get things in motion. When do you see the attorney?
hugs my friend, you can do it. It takes time. Take all the time you need. Gee, I am still at it and it has been over 12 years since I threw in the towel. Learn to be your own BFF. I am alone, but not lonely. It will seem strange at first, but as time goes by, you will feel the peace and quiet slowly hugging you.
Gotta call yet. (Yes, I know I need that proverbial headslap here)
Nothing is going to happen until you make it. Hugs.
Very true. Next day or two--- I promise.
clean out his bank account too ;-0) wink!
Sorry you have having a rough time veggie, hope it all works out.
When I feel bogged down it’s because I’m repeating my habit thinking which dredges up how I felt about myself in the past. (Even yesterday lol. A little line I say to myself when I wake is ‘this is a new day, I haven’t seen this day before ‘. It reminds me that I can just go through my old motions or create something different. It’s hard changing the cycle of repetition but if we really want a better life then it’s the only way. Even little things like driving a new route to work even if it’s a little longer. Some of my fear (anxiety) arises when I don’t put in the effort to make a positive day because then the stuck feeling seems overwhelming. And if I consider ALL the self care work I need to do then it is overwhelming. Like right now I’m going for a walk to enjoy the colors then a few chores I put off yesterday. Then an afternoon helping my daughter with her ‘things’. Then....... the next step. Don’t get ahead of yourself. What can you do right now for a healthier you? These are the moments that matter because they add up to become a different way of seeing ourselves. One step at a time. I like to start my task at hand with three slow deep breaths because then right away I’m caring about my emotional health. Love J
In agreement with above. I once had a counselor who told me to take 3 deep breaths every hour and to set an alarm so I wouldn't miss an hour. I thought he was full of it so I did what he suggested just to prove him wrong but I was pleasantly surprised at the end of the day, at how much better I felt and how much easier it was to make decisions that truly benefited me. Sometimes the simplest things I overlook are the things that help me the most.
There were no instructions on how to live this life when we came in to this world which means God didn't make it overly difficult to navigate through it. I keep that in mind when I have a seemingly difficult decision to make.
Many times when I answer your post, it seems like it's a reply or a reminder to myself so keep posting because you are helping me also.
God Bless
Is coming tonight. Was to be released at 3pm . I waited til after 5 and took a few things for him. Turned out he was delayed and is probably still not there. I dropped off his goodies and called him to tell him I would stop tomorrow. Did not want to spend an hour and a half just waiting. His poor sister has been with him since before 3 waiting. (Better her than me)
good for you , sounds like you are withdrawing from him Kim.
each day you will get stronger and stronger and one day you will fly.
even one small action will help, prepare your documents like passport, ID etc, start saving some money (even a small amount), thinking of you.