annoyed for different reasons.
Today I am annoyed. Not with my roommate, this time. Now I am annoyed with my boyfriend. I feel like I am constantly annoyed with him. I really don’t know how to fix the issues we have or if there even is a “fix.” We seem so wrong for each-other. He says he loves me but doesn’t back it up at all. All he cares about is acquiring “junk” so people will be jealous of him. I cannot stand it. There is always something that he NEEDS and can’t be happy without it.. first it was a boat.. then a dirtbike.. then a tractor.. then a toolbox.. and its NEVER something to help our relationship like a place to live. I have told him multiple times if he doesn’t stop the irrational spending then I am gone.. and he hasn’t.. and I am still here. So it is my problem now. I need to leave him but I can’t. We have a dog together and he will not give her up.. I can’t ask him to either. And I don’t think a shared custody agreement will help or will be healthy for either of us.
I have succumbed to stay in this relationship for the dog.. and I am miserable. I cry every night. I don’t know what to do.
I have succumbed to stay in this relationship for the dog.. and I am miserable. I cry every night. I don’t know what to do.
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I wish I could give you some advice here, but I know how attached people get to their pets. I\'ve got an orange cat who is my constant companion, and won\'t leave my side whenever I am at home. I\'d hate the thought of having to give him up - for anything.
I can\'t give you much advice on your boyfriend. I recently was dating a woman who was very focused on her image. At least she was not spending my money. I thought she was just pretentious or self-centered, but now I am understanding that it was much deeper than that. If your boyfriend can come to understand he has a problem, then he can help himself. If he thinks there is nothing wrong with his spending habits - I\'m afraid there\'s nothing you can do and he will likely never change.
Hang in there.