An update

I thought I would drop in and see how everyone is. Ya'll look good :) 
I've been busy learning how to fill my own needs and stop taking care of everyone else's (except my kids) for a change. I've been out doing things that I love by myself or with new found friends. I've actually found I like to spend time alone and sort of figure out who I am and what I like to do without having to worry about what someone else wants to do. I spent 5 1/2 hours at a museum in Los Angeles doing nothing but taking pictures. I'm sure if I had brought someone with me they would have been bored to tears and I would have worried about them being bored to tears. I'm liking this 'doing things for myself' concept!
I've finished my divorce papers and am filing them first thing tomorrow morning. I feel pretty good about that.
My kids are doing better. In fact my youngest, the one who was angry at my stbx for hurting him, finally listened to me and sent a letter to his soon to be ex-step-dad telling him how angry he is. I was so relieved. The worst thing I could imagine coming out of this is to have one or both of my kids learn to be non-feeling and afraid of emotions because they were hurt by someone who is afraid of emotions.All in all, I think the kids, dog and I are doing pretty well.