ambulance

We received a call this evening from T.  He said the ambulance is at his friend's house for him. He had them call 911 because his heart rate went up and he couldn't breathe very well. The ambulance guy told my husband that T's blood pressure was 152, too. He also said that T didn't want them to take him to the hospital - said his parents would take him. So we get there and the attending guy suggested we go straight to the hospital. On the way T told us that he was feeling much better and wanted to go home.  We tried to convince him but to no avail. Once we were home he said he was too wired to rest and wanted to go out.  So he did.  Ambulance guys told us they asked him if he used anything and he said no.  I could tell he was clean.  He was too alert and coherent and acted normal.  He has been under the weather - sore throat, worked out hard today but smoked way too many cigarettes.  What can ya do?  He's something else.....  And I will not be surprised if he refuses to go to the doctor tomorrow like he said he would..... so stubborn! Update - When he came home he said he was feeling a lot better.  I said to him "You have no intention in going to the doctor tomorrow are you?"  He said no.  I'm going to see my doctor friend today and ask him what he thinks. Not that it would change T's mind.....   

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deleted_user
deleted_user

ok, I have to give you my gut reaction due to how much I have been through that you have helped me with. I would give him a drug test. We randomly give them and now it\'s no big deal. Also, my son has sat with the family at the dinner table many times, only to learn later that he was under the influence. Not all substances are detectable in drug tests, unless you get a thorough one done at a clinic. My point is that kids can be lucid when stoned, and also I want to point out that if you make random testing due to past history common place, so will he eventually. He will understand that you are worried about him. When they get angry and defensive, it is a warning sign and a cry for help. My son son was snorting ambien and also drinking, and almost died on new years eve last year. The other kids left him passed out in someone\'s yard. He almost died. My gut is telling me that your son is up to something, prmarily due to his tendancy to forget to call or come home so often. I would insist on a drug test, and then talk about his reaction to this proposition, whatever it may be. Also, I think a conversation with the other boys parents would be in order, unless he lives alone. I am not looking for him to be guilty of anything, I just feel like I see signs that are familiar, and it\'s scary. Good luck.
mom-of-3
mom-of-3

Thanks for your input. The problem is - like I said - he is very ( actually EXTREMELY) stubborn and resistant. We\'ve never been able to give him a drug screen - we had to wait until the system was in charge. I did end up talking to my friend doctor and he said that his heart did that too when he had been in recovery for awhile. My son is and has always been a bit flighty - all over the map and it\'s very difficult to get him to focus on the important things sometimes. Although I am not ruling anything out - I find it hard to believe he\'s using - he\'s active with sports - both on and off the court - he\'s talking about his future, he isn\'t behaving as if he\'s using. But I guess there is always that possibility. Time will tell. Thanks
deleted_user
deleted_user

Essentially, I agree with BAB09. Further, your friend is middle aged and your son is not; that BP is a a RED FLAG; as well as the decision to call an ambulance...! If it\'s not drug use, the abnormal BP and HR bears further investigation with his doctor. I am very concerned!!
mom-of-3
mom-of-3

What choice do we have - tie him up and kidnap him? He\'s no longer a minor. My husband is laid back and doesn\'t want to fight him. I couldn\'t even get T to go to a doctor\'s appointment for a foot problem that he wanted to go to. I\'m tired of making appointments for him and he bags on them. In addition, my friend is an emergency room doctor (not quite middle aged) and he didn\'t seem concerned.
deleted_user
deleted_user

You\'re right, you can\'t make him go! However, the story doesn\'t add up; he has not reported this before and he is well beyond the detox stage....something scared him enough that he and/or his friend had reason to believe that it could be an emergency (such as a reaction to drug use). I think you have reason given his more recent behaviors to have the \"mom\" antenna up. Take Care!