Am I crazy
So I feel like my bf cares more abt his friends than me so I brought up that I'm not comfortable with him so friendly with his exs. All his friends are girls...... Great I feel like fucking shitHe said what do i expect him to stop talking to his friends cause that's what they are...... Im sorry I don't nor have I been intimate my friends or been in relationships with them. Everytime I try to talk to him he goes into full anxiety but when these girls msg him he's all helpful and caring..... I feel so worthless and not like a priority on any level
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You're not crazy in feeling the way you do. There's a big difference between your boyfriend being friends with a girl and him being friends with an ex. Out of respect for you, he needs to advise his ex-girlfriends that you are his priority now, and that the regular communication with them will have to stop. The only exception is if one of them is a mother to his child (in which case, you will have to accept the fact that contact will and should continue until the child turns 18).
As a man who gets along better with women (My best friend is a woman), I believe men and women can just be friends. However in this case, he's hanging out with ex girlfriends and this,rightfully so, bothers you. I can only say tell him how you feel. You are valid in your feelings about this. It's far from crazy to be thinking like this.
I have asked for boundaries to be set. I have been cheated on by all bar 1 bf however they all abused me either mentally and or physically. He has no children. He says hes just better friends than anything else but I'm still uncomfortable abt this but willing to try the boundaries we will see