ALMOST THERE
I made anither payment towards my trip today. Thank you Over time!!!!!! While i'm in Cali I decided to take a few extra days and have my sister show me around to different apt complexes out there near her. After the start of the New Year I have decided to start applying for jobs out there. I have been on Craigslist and there alot of preschools looking for Directors and Asst. Teachers. This is a very hard decision for me as my older children will not be able to come with us. I am starting to feel like I just can't rebuild a life out here. This is the place he loves he drug us all out here from our happy lives in Dallas only to run out on us a few years later. I love California it's where I was meant to be all along and maybe some of my sadness is that I just don't like it here. Cali has my most favorite things in the world. Everything I LOVE. My family sister, aunts, uncles, cousins. The BEACH which I dream of all the time and of course DISNEYLAND!!!!!!!! I would be living around 30 minutes from Disney. Alot of planning to do but my heart is pulling me there and I really believe that Austin and I can start over fresh with a whole new life in front of us. Instead of staying here feeling sad aboout all we LOST and worrying he is around every corner....................
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Awesome goal - great start of your new life!
I don\'t want to be a wet blanket, but your X could throw a wrench in those plans because you would be taking your minor age son with you. I hope he doesn\'t throw a fit, but I\'m thinking it\'s almost likely that he will.
Years ago, I knew a woman who did just that -- BUT she told her X that she would let him off the hook for Child Support if he just let her move away with the kids and never darkened their doorstep again. He stayed away for 20 years. But it was a financial struggle for her the whole way. Just sayin.
Kathi is right. He could go to court and insist that you move back to where you are now. I\'ve heard that some states won\'t let the mother and children move to another county if the dad objects. You better check it out before you get to far into this.
Thanks for the warning girls but as you know if anything makes it easier on him that\'s the road he will take. I already have Sole Legal Custody and Sole Physical Custody because he didn\'t want any more than just visitations every other weekend. And lets see he has missed his last couple visitations because of bullshit excuses he didn\'t feel good and he already had plans he couldn\'t break. Also he is $3200.00 behind in support now with no intentions on paying me anything until he is ready that\'s what he told me himself. He doesn\'t care what the courts say because he doesn\'t have to abide by the rules. Not GOD\'s OR THE STATES he\'s just special and has his own set he can follow and that\'s anything that doesn\'t inconvienence him HE COMES FIRST ALWAYS REMEMBER. I let my Lawyer know of my plans and he saild it shouldn\'t be a problem because we can show that he is not paying his support and I have to move in order to take care of us better. I have family that is willing to let us stay with them for as long as it takes until I have saved up enough to make it on my own.
Then lastly let\'s not forget how much better it will be for him no more worrying about having to see him on his visitation weekends more time to party and play 20 yrs old again. No more having to bother to call him a couple times a week and usually he only does that when me or shelby text him to remind him it\'s been 4 or 5 days since he last spoke to him. Plus he will think if I move he doesn\'t have to pay his support. HELL he isn\'t paying now and i\'m just a couple miles away. Really think he is going to pay it when i\'m hundreds of miles away. I think like everything thing else he will take the COWARDS way out and simply say Well if it\'s what you want. He really won\'t care guys...... But i\'m so glad you do!!!!!!