Allowing it all!
“Whatever we perceive in another person, whatever we find absolutely unacceptable, is something we believe in our own mind. They are simply acting it out for us.”
David Hoffmeister - ACIM
I work every day at owning in myself what disturbs me in others. The above is such a true belief for me.
I am really having a walk down memory lane with my kids Dad; our history together. I have noticed what at one time I found "absolutely unacceptable" in him had much to do with what 'I' believed right/wrong in my own mind. This situation is certainly bringing me to a place of forgiveness that I had no idea needed forgiving; for myself and for him.
The kids found out yesterday he has approximately 6 months without chemo. and a year or so with chemo. My heart is breaking for my kids.
I am allowing it all to unfold; stuffing nothing.
Happy Friday Everyone!
David Hoffmeister - ACIM
I work every day at owning in myself what disturbs me in others. The above is such a true belief for me.
I am really having a walk down memory lane with my kids Dad; our history together. I have noticed what at one time I found "absolutely unacceptable" in him had much to do with what 'I' believed right/wrong in my own mind. This situation is certainly bringing me to a place of forgiveness that I had no idea needed forgiving; for myself and for him.
The kids found out yesterday he has approximately 6 months without chemo. and a year or so with chemo. My heart is breaking for my kids.
I am allowing it all to unfold; stuffing nothing.
Happy Friday Everyone!
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I think your quote is amazing. It is so true! In my new work place I see nothing but greatness, niceness and love in the faces of my work mates. I also see great humour. I know this is because I have changed. I think this situation is incredibly hard for you and your children. I also see it as a place to reach into your spirituality and trust that this is a time and place for forgiveness, love and gratitude for a journey/life shared and the good things that union created (your children). I send you much love xxxx
Rosie: When I turned 65 in July, I had a week or more of reflection down memory lane BIG TIME; I can\'t begin to explain it. Everything I had been thru (good and bad) kept coming to me. I ended up being grateful for everything because all of it has led me to exactly where I am today. For me, it\'s not about material things, it\'s not about money, it\'s not about the outer. I have found an inner peace that is beyond words. I am now taking another trip down memory lane (good and bad) feeling much! I have a deep love for the kids Dad for simply being. He told my kids the other day he had a lot of regrets. I thought about that and I have to honestly say I no longer have too many regrets. I have pretty much made peace with my past, peace with myself. I feel a piece of this happening has been self-forgiveness; having self-forgiveness for myself has allowed me now to forgive Dale and be able to actually feel love for him. Regrets. How hard that must be to have regrets. When my Dad passed, he set up on his death bed and yelled \"if my Dad hadn\'t left me. I could have been a professional baseball player.\" This is probably true. My Dad\'s Dad left him when he was three, moved 10 miles down the road, married a woman 19 yrs. younger than him, had six children and NEVER CAME BACK to see my Dad or my Uncle again. How sad. My Dad took that to his grave and I made a decision that day, I was not going to my death bed like that. A big \"ah-ha\" moment for me. That is when I really, really, really, started to inner work. R.A. and my Dad\'s death changed my life in a big way....So, I muddle through the feelings, allow them all, and hopefully am finding love for someone whom at one time I thought I hated. He was just like me in the sense that he was doing what he knew! My heart goes out to him, his wife. his siblings/Dad (whom I love) and my children. I believe Dale is simply going though another Door and his Spirit will live on, but for those left behind...it is hard!
Happy Saturday. Meeting up with friends. Thank you Rosie for your kind words.
xo
Wow...Vicki! Thank you. It is so lovely to read your comments as I keep learning and learning xxxx