Afraid of becoming overprotective....

So its 2:45am here and as you can see I'm still up. I thought about my son all day yesterday. I didnt tell my husband I just continued on. But anyways my husband said something to me that got me thinking alot. He said "Baby when God thinks were ready for another child or if we have another child, promise me that you will let me know when and if I become overbearing and too protective of you or the baby." So that got me wondering.... so I figured I should ask you guys. After things like SIDS happen when you have another baby how do you keep from being overprotective of them? I dont want to rob my child of childhood..does this make sense? I know that if Curtis were still alive  I wouldnt be so antsy but at the same time I dont want to feel the need to check the baby every minute of every hour you cant live life like that. So how do you ease your mind?? HELP!!!! Happy 3 month Angel day Chubby Cub!!!  I know you are having a good time up in heaven. Keep watching over mommy and daddy!!! Thanks for sending that beautiful yellow butterfly!!!  You know mommy loved dressing you in yellow....I just thought it was your color!! Well kiss everyone up there for me. I love and miss you Curtis III !!!! 

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Nathan was my first so i can\'t really answer it i can tell you i have the same fears. I know my next child will have an nervous twitch from being woken up all the time
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I have a 16 month old at home, he had just turned 1 when Ari passed away, I still check on him all the time, it\'s abit of an obsession, I think it\'s just something thst we are all goign to do, but I\'ve realized that I can\'t let the overprotectiveness stop baby shaun from experiencing life...in the beginning everytime he fell(he was starting to walk) I\'d run over and panic as if something happened, but now I am a bit more laid back, but I almost have to force myself to do it. But I\'m not sure how I\'m going to handle having a new baby in the house, I\'m sure I will be a nervous wreck, I will probably get an angel monitor, just for some peace of mind.
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I think once Finn is born I will be a wreck!
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I think once my new baby is born, I am totally going to turn into one of those overprotective moms that I never wanted to be. But I think it just comes with the territory - we just can\'t help it. I think that maybe by the time we have our next one - maybe I will be better. But who knows.
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It is hard, but the love you feel for the new baby is like no other. I think because of losing one before, you just VALUE AND TREASURE every single moment. I am worried ALL THE TIME and I think about losing Justin and how it would really truley put me over the edge. I do believe that God will not give you more than you can handle and that he would not let anything happen to my baby. I pray about it eveyr day. Some days I have tonnes of anxiety and I almost feel like I am having a panic attack, so I pray for God to take the fear and worry away and not to let anything happen to my children EVER again!
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My anxiety still hits home with my son Brett (off and on) I am scared of losing him to really anything.. I lost my daughter to a heart condition when she was 2 wks old back in Aug 06 and my son was born Aug 07 and I thought my anxiety would ease up once Brett was past 2wks old but it didn\'t ease up at all until just recently.. So time will tell how you do in the future..
You can\'t help feeling the way you do feel, I don\'t think that you will deprive you next child of anything.. Hope that eases your mind alittle!!
lots of hugs, Michelle
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You have to keep telling yourself lightening doesn\'t strike twice and pray that it is true. I am going to be baby Victoria\'s savior I think. I know all the other grown ups in her life are gonna want her in bubble wrap the moment she is born. We can\'t do that. I know I am going to be a wreck but I just have to have faith all will be okay!