A Year Ago

I just realized that yesterday it was exactly a year ago that he broke up with me for the second time. 
The first time was a year ago May 30th, when I told him I was going out to watch a hockey playoff game at a bar/restaurant with some of our mutual friends.  He could not go along because he had an event with his kids that day.  A few days later he decided to forgive me and take me back. 
The second time (June 6th) a week later, was because he didn't want me to go out with 4 of my girlfriends to celebrate one of my friend's upcoming marriage to the man of her dreams. She suffered through a bad 10 year marriage and then was in an abusive relationship.  She worked full-time, was going to school and had full custody of her children.  Her new husband is amazing and their upcoming marriage was truly a blessing.  The ex N broke up with me an hour before I was supposed to go out to dinner and to watch an 80's band play retro hits.  I was so emotionally tortured from him breaking up with me again after what had happened just a week earlier that I couldn't go out.  Instead I stayed home had a panic attack and threw up all night.
The next time he broke up with me, was my friend's wedding 2 weeks later.  It was on Father's Day and he was spending the day with his children.  I was fine going to the wedding by myself, I understood that Father's Day was important to him and that he should be with his children.  He then informed me that I couldn't go to the wedding because he wasn't going with me.  This was one of my (our) closest friends who was getting married and I told him that I wouldn't forgive myself if I missed out on such a special day.  I didn't demand that he miss Father's Day with the children to go with me, so I didn't understand why he couldn't be just as understanding of the importance of her wedding to me.  He called me as I was getting dressed for the wedding to let me know that I was a bitch who killed our relationship and that he hoped I had a miserable life. 
The story continues....
 
 
 
 

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deleted_user
deleted_user

What an ass!! Three times in like what a month!!??!! I really hope Harmony that you are looking at, or will try to look at this year \"anniversary\" mark as a blessing. One to celebrate not cry about. He is absolutely unbelievalbe though! Again...what an ass!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Silly girl! Of course he broke up with you, you weren\'t paying enough attention to him. I mean gosh, how dare you go celebrate with your friend who is going to marry an amazing guy. Yup, an asshole through and through. Just like mine. I was told not to go to my son\'s one and only appearance in the NCAA Baseball tournament. I put my foot down; he filed for divorce that very day.

CELEBRATE! CELEBRATE! CELEBRATE! This time next year, I will celebrate with you!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am glad you are away from him and hope that the next year is the one for peace and healing.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am glad you are away from him and hope that the next year is the one for peace and healing.
harmonytwin
harmonytwin

Thanks for the positive thoughts everyone. I\'m just sort of rambling off the thoughts that are popping in my head. I\'ve been mourning the loss of my \"perfect\" relationship lately so I need take a more realistic walk down memory lane.
blackdog999
blackdog999

hey just wanted to say Congratulations on being too strong and independent to be possessed and controlled by a narcisist and furthermore congratulations for one years of sanity and freedom.
Love n hugs to strong, sassy and beautiful young woman.
xxxxxx
sunnygal2
sunnygal2

wow...a year this month, way to go girl!! U keep pushing forward, u r way ahead of me as I am struggling to get prepared to move out, but truly cannot yet..in the same respect you deserve several pats on the back and a giant hug for staying away over a year...you will be ok, way to go cannot say it enough!!!!!