A weird place to be
Hello everyone:
After 5 years of separation on Friday I got a divorce. We had been together for 21 years in total, and we have known each other since we were 11 years old. At times my marriage was good, not perfect, but good and happy. But then what I tought is was only a bad mood from his part became anger and at my worst I end up in a hospital bed with severe damaged to my ribs. After an argument, for the life of me can't remember what was the argument about he kick me on the floor so hard I lost consiousness for a while. A neighbor took me to the hospital. I still did not left him. In fact he left me, and I was a mess. I tried to make it work but after he had 2 affairs I slowly began to move on. I got a job, one of those meaningless jobs, started making friends, got promoted, went to therapy...
Which gets me to last Friday, I went to the courthouse and signed the papers for an uncontested divorce, with my head held high. I did not flinch or buckled. We only have one daughter who lives with me but is in college, so after our living arrangement were settled (he will continue to pay me rent for 5 years); we went out of the courtroom. And when I looked back, there he was, ,my ex crying at the stairs...I mean really crying. He told me he still love me.
So that is the weird part, he has been asking me for a divorce for the past 5 years,and now that I signed, then he tells me he loves me!
When he left he told me he did not love anymore!
I have someone else in my life, who is very different from him, and we are having so far a good relationship, so far been 3 months... I know, but is really good so far.
Is this common? Or my ex is as crazy as I think he is?
Regardless of that divorce is hard, even when you know is long overdue.
After 5 years of separation on Friday I got a divorce. We had been together for 21 years in total, and we have known each other since we were 11 years old. At times my marriage was good, not perfect, but good and happy. But then what I tought is was only a bad mood from his part became anger and at my worst I end up in a hospital bed with severe damaged to my ribs. After an argument, for the life of me can't remember what was the argument about he kick me on the floor so hard I lost consiousness for a while. A neighbor took me to the hospital. I still did not left him. In fact he left me, and I was a mess. I tried to make it work but after he had 2 affairs I slowly began to move on. I got a job, one of those meaningless jobs, started making friends, got promoted, went to therapy...
Which gets me to last Friday, I went to the courthouse and signed the papers for an uncontested divorce, with my head held high. I did not flinch or buckled. We only have one daughter who lives with me but is in college, so after our living arrangement were settled (he will continue to pay me rent for 5 years); we went out of the courtroom. And when I looked back, there he was, ,my ex crying at the stairs...I mean really crying. He told me he still love me.
So that is the weird part, he has been asking me for a divorce for the past 5 years,and now that I signed, then he tells me he loves me!
When he left he told me he did not love anymore!
I have someone else in my life, who is very different from him, and we are having so far a good relationship, so far been 3 months... I know, but is really good so far.
Is this common? Or my ex is as crazy as I think he is?
Regardless of that divorce is hard, even when you know is long overdue.
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