A reply Post from ParentsofEstrangedAdultChildrenEverywhere

I just had to "eat a major guilt trip" over curtailing a friendship in which I felt I was being abused. Ordinarily, I would have probably stayed in said "friendship" but thanks to some of the EC groups (including this one) on DS that I belong to -- I said "NO ~ Major No!!"I have learned to set my boundaries, make choices in the healthy function of my life, and to stand my ground in order to bring that about! I have to come to accept it as fact that I have no influence over how my EC are going to feel towards me. The last thing I need to do is to hand the steering of my life over to them as they care for no one but themselves.No amount of bowing, scraping or cajoling will accomplish anything short of my own personal humiliation! There was a time when I, in desperation, tried to do what I could think of to change the situation. Then I decided to change me instead. It was after hanging this prayer in my bathroom where I am reminded daily, "God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can and Wisdom to know the difference." that I came to this conclusion.I don't think they will ever change.. But I have!
NDY
PEACE be with you ...