A Quick Update

So I have now met with my counselor twice and have gotten some clarification on things happening to me within my relationship. The days have been long but I am long past fighting with him I guess. He has tried to start 3 fights now to which I have not even found that I can get angry enough to yell. Instead I am assertive and tell him what I think. Because of this I know he is going to up the ante. Right now he is kinda in a phase where he feels things are great between us. After all we have not fought about anything lately. Does not mean anything as far as I am concerned because I just do not care anymore. I am over this and just need to focus on being happy and that means leaving him. First I need to prepare myself though. He wants us to all move again and has been applying for jobs outside of the city but I have no desire to move at all. I have said this but it falls on deaf ears. In just thinking of what has happened they are as follows: He accused me of drinking more than I had and then proceeded to tell me that he thinks I have a problem with drinking and need to drink all the time(I average maybe a bottle of wine and 6 coolers in a month if I am lucky). He at that point said he didn't believe me either that I only had one drink. He also kept asking me if I had been avoiding him the past couple weeks because he has been in a bad mood/depression. No I have not but I most definitely feel more stress and anxiety because of his moods. He then asked me why I still felt it necessary to not cancel my plans one night with a friend knowing that he was not doing good and needed me. My answer, I needed to get out cause he was making me hate the person I was becomming. This then created my apparent next lie according to him. He kept trying to talk in circles to cofuse me but I was not having it. I told him he was trying to manipulate me and took pleasure in trickery and that I was tired of it. Of course he denied it and then told me that I was never there for him when he needed me. Even asked me how I felt I was. Then while we were visiting back home I had plans with a friend and he was upset that I was not going to only spend a little time with her and a lot of the night with him and his friends. I said that I see him every night and that I barely see her so that is why I was spending time with her. That made him upset because we "never" do anything together anymore. He also tried to make me feel guilty by saying he was once again stuck with the kids and that I got to go out without them. My grandma had offered multiple times to watch them but he said no. He also refused to go to see my cousin with me because hes an asshole. Then at the end of the night he wanted to be intimate at my grandmas. I did not want to which upset him so in the end I finally said fine and very much reluctantly had sex with him. Fast forward and he tells me how good we are doing because we are not fighting anymore and he feels were on a good track in our relationship. Then he is upset I went with a friend for coffee and was late getting home. Instead of him making the kids supper he expected me to pick up burgers for them while he made himself something to eat. I did not want to fight so I got them burgers and didnt get myself anything. Then he wanted to know why I didnt, he knows I can not eat fast food because of the gluten and dairy. Financially we are in ruins and it does not seem to matter, he will take and take and take and expect that I will fix it all. Then he gets mad at me because he has no idea what our finances are, despite me being upfront with him on everything. I had to make him a cover letter at lunch and send that and a resume off so he could eat....and play a game on his phone. He does nothing but grumble about work and how awful it is to the point I think I might as well be employed there since I know the daily going ons.