A-O ADULT PEOPLE
A-O IS WHAT I USE FOR ASSHOLE... Not as bad sounding. But the AO HAVE MAD NO ATTEMPT to fix anything with their dad. I have never tried to hurt them, never talked down to them. I have tried to be nice. Invited them to all our family activities but they ever came. Who are THE A-O HURTING THEIR FATHER. HE said the other night he does not know how to handle this overwhelming painful depression that comes over him at times. With the distance between us 9 hours one way you would think for 2 days about 4 times a year they could act decent..NOT. TOO SELF-CENTERED.. I have never had words with them. They have told me off. Made snide remarks to me when either their dad was not around or could not hear them. I don't know what will happen..will they have the power to convince their dad how bad I am according to them, don't know. They can smile at you while stabbing the knife in your back...just don't get it really really don't....wonder what they will ever do if they let this continue and something happens to their dad..one thing they will never get is a call from me. They too are no longer welcome in my home...what do you think they would say if they knew their dad has put the house in my name only over their threats of taking everything if he dies before me. While he was in the hospital during him triple-by pass, they informed me what all they would be removing from our walls the day of his funeral..well decision has been made if he goes before me the locks will be changed..Luther will not even be called about his memorial. Since as she said to me I quote "You are nothing to me, you have never been, never will be. Your a no body means to me I owe them nothing..So she made the choice along with her brother..I have given them a lot, flew them here, paid for meals. But I am nothing to them..so therefore they made the decision...Let it be!!!!!!THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT.
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Stupid, stupid children, adult children. Little pea brains. They\'ve built their own loss. All their anger has gotten them naught. And you, dear pal, stand by this, write it big on your journal, mirror, floor boards, wherever so that you do NOT forget their stupid hatred. Look what they have wrought! It\'s good of you to let them live at all. Love, Abby
This is just terrible. They should be glad that their dad and you have each other. As Abby said, it will come to nothing for them in the end except for the hurt to their dad, so sad!!!! You are right to cut them off and not hurt yourself anymore. Wishing you both some peace. Kathy xoxox
It is just sad. I am so glad your husband has ensured you have a home no matter what. I feel sorry for you both. They are hurting their dad - and you because you see how it is hurting him. It sounds like you have done your best to build a positive relationship with them. I don\'t blame you for avoiding them and living your life in peace. It just hurts too much.
Feel free to come here and vent. Always here to listen.
Love and tight hugs,
Marlene
Thanks and Abby your so RIGHT. STUPID!!!! And to all that commented but what does their dad do. I know how it hurts when you lose a child and this is very difficult on him. I heard something the other day they are not to be considered children. They are adults one is 44 the boy is 40.
Hugs, for all the hurts!
They are unbelievable! So glad your husband is looking out for your best interest. Hugs, Linda
These adult children have no respect for you and you just need to let it go, forget them. My God, what is wrong with them? I feel for you, stay strong, they are not worth the stress! Hugs to you, XOX, Debbie
I do hope he believes you when you explain how his children treat you. He must understand that they hate you. I am glad he has taken steps to protect you as mush as he can or believes he can.
SO much unnecessary pain and hurt... I am sorry that this is the kind of world they live in. Thank goodness you don\'t have to live in it with them.
Loving care and some pauses in the midst of this madness!
XO Joanie
Isn\'t that the truth. First and they don\'t know why they hate me..finally I guess she didn\'t think I would let her dad read the notes and he finally believed me..he is very angry at her but wants to see the grandchildren. Sorta hard being 900 miles away...meI am erasing them out of my life. Changing my will soon as I can. Driving still hard. He keeps saying I never thought she would do this...finally, she opened the door and may have closed it in her own face..I truly was happy when she told him to choose, then put it in writing to me..black and white in writing, you can\'t denied you wrote it... She just put her butt big at that in her mouth....no disrespect about the big butt she just thinks hers don\'t stink. I think she is totally shocked he has not attempted t go to see her or call her. AO didn\'t get her way this time....
Sadly,
I have a brother who took things off the wall when my father got married. My father made him bring his belongings back. My dad\'s wife is wonderful and doesn\'t deserve my brother\'s wrath. My brother is a doctor and he feels entitled to my father\'s belongings, money, houses ect. He has love for no one, and I pity him really. The adult children sound horrible, and I\'m so happy that everything has been put in your name because they aren\'t showing you or their father any respect whatsoever.
Love to you
Chris
I agree. I told him. How can they respect me when they don\'t respect him. Sad Sad Sad