a good nights sleep

what i wouldn't give for a good night sleep.I'm so tired at 9.30 in the evening that i've become such a drag cause  I won't go to a movie,retaurant,have a party or stay up late on a saturday night I sleep till about 1.00 AM then i toss and turn and sweat and dream and freeze cycle all night long..Its the dredded menopause. I manage my lupus,i do all the right things So its under control....but nothing can compete with those dredded HOT FLASHES. i feel like i'm swimming all night.By morning i'm wired not tired.and i go all day ...to the gym,clean, store, rush.I've tried to tire myself to have a nap ,it does not work.so i have alot of muscle and joint pain. More of the fybromyalgia kind.I know there are drugs i can take ,but want to go the natural route red clover ..ect.does anyone have any natural remedies to share? and will my lupus pains go away when menopause finally happens?