A few (?) words
Had a major (verbal) fight w/son before Christmas. He was playing Wii & getting increasingly angry & starting to spin out of control. I told him to start playing & he got very verbally abusive with me (complete w/4 & 5-letter words). Well, I gave it back to him & he was like, "you want to fight?" Of course I won't do that--so I just stormed out (had to p/u my daughter anyway). But boy, I was mad as heck!!!
And he's been getting to school later & later. Vacation was OK. but 1st day back, he dragged it out & dragged it out that he ended up not going. I was furious, but didn't yell or scream (yay me!). When I got home, he was somewhat repentant & said he'd never do that again before I even said a word. I told him that from now on, the lunch $ he gets (which is his allowance) he has to earn by: 1) getting to school on time and 2) doing the chore I assign to him. $1 for each, each day (which is about how much he spends on lunch).
So guess what--he's been getting to school on time (cutting close, but doing it) & doing his chores.
But I've also just "turned off" to him. He has made me that mad. No more kissing up; no more pouring on the love just for the sake of making him feeling loved. I'm tired of his emotional manipulation. I've had it. My life is mine & I'm slowly taking it back.
And he's been getting to school later & later. Vacation was OK. but 1st day back, he dragged it out & dragged it out that he ended up not going. I was furious, but didn't yell or scream (yay me!). When I got home, he was somewhat repentant & said he'd never do that again before I even said a word. I told him that from now on, the lunch $ he gets (which is his allowance) he has to earn by: 1) getting to school on time and 2) doing the chore I assign to him. $1 for each, each day (which is about how much he spends on lunch).
So guess what--he's been getting to school on time (cutting close, but doing it) & doing his chores.
But I've also just "turned off" to him. He has made me that mad. No more kissing up; no more pouring on the love just for the sake of making him feeling loved. I'm tired of his emotional manipulation. I've had it. My life is mine & I'm slowly taking it back.
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