A Father's Day Card For Richard My Beloved Husband

Men And Grief
It must be very difficultTo be a man in grief,Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficultTo stand up to the testAnd field calls and visitorsSo she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all rightAnd what she's going throughBut seldom take his hand and ask,"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the nightAnd thinks his heart will breakAnd dries her tears and comforts herBut "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult To start each day anewAnd try to be so very brave ~He lost his baby too. . .
Crying for the men who don't allow themselves to cry... This breaks my heart... The lines really resonate with me about he hears her crying... dries her tears and comforts her... Even my husband... who is not Cara's father has had to share me with my grief with little attention given to how he is with the sadness all around him... Thank you Richard for your smiling loving face. 
This poem was posted on Face Book  in the For Moms Only group… I copied the poem and my comment because I want to say I know your life was affected too when Cara died. I want you to know that I am so very grateful to you. I loved you long before Cara died… but the fact that you have stood by me through this, that I have felt your concern and love for me… means more than I’ll ever be able to say. Your Loving Grateful Wife, Elissa

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babiboismom
babiboismom

What a beautiful touching poem, it brought tears to my eyes.
Reunion
Reunion

This is very beautiful. You are a lucky woman to have such a caring husband...attentive to your sorrow--or at least willing to take a back seat for awhile..And he\'s lucky you\'re generous with your gratitude! :-) .Love, Donna
RememberKala
RememberKala

Beautiful.......REAL and touching..... Thank you for sharing!

Love and tight hugs to Richard!!
JennsMom66
JennsMom66

Yes, our guys suffer too, and more silently than we...
And special those of us who\'s partners aren\'t the \' real\' dad but care as much