A Belated Father's Day Message

Sunday was Father's Day and it turned out to be a great day for me. I went to Church and felt great that Fathers are being appreciated and acknowledged. In this day and age; Fathers, especially Good Men are demonized and associated with the Men who don't take care of their responsiblities as Fathers and Men. It was refreshing for a change. It hurts that my Daughter isn't in my life right now because my ex GF has cut off all contact with my daughter from me. It's frustrating and it hurts.

I have tried The Family Court System andattempts to hire a Lawyer were unsuccessful. I have decided to stop looking for a Support Group for Noncustodial Fathers because it is a joke in NYC and hard to find. Right now, I am going to work on myself. I didn't have the best Dinner for Father's Day because the food that I had wanted to buy at The Supermarket was gone and had a Burger and Fries instead. For the first time in years, I actually had a good Father's Day celebration. It was nothing fancy and a chance to celebrate being a Father despite my situation. 

It  helped me to come to terms that I am still a Father and my ex GF couldn't take that away from despite using Family Court to parentially alientate me from my daughter. Both Men and Women fail to realize that they are hurting the children when they don't allow them to be the other parent's life. My ex is being selfish and hurting our daughter. All I need to do for myself is taking care of myself and forgive my ex in spite of herself, and for me to forgive myself. The past is gone and the relationship we once had romantically is also over. I desire to be in a relationship again and will take my time. I don't want to repeat the same mistakes again.

This is a new day and beginning for me. I hope that whoever reads this will be encouraged to keep your head up and not give up. Don't listen to the Family Court Judges and programs that the Court Magisrate sends you which are horrible to define you as a person due to the choices you have made because Family Court Judges are biased and even one sided. I had to learn that for myself and still learning it. I also learned that it takes 2 to tangle in a relationship and it's not entirely one person's fault when a relationship ends. Both individuals are equally to blame. Learn from the mistakes that was made from your previous relationships so that you will do better in the next one.

I wish the best for Men who are Fathers both new and old. Happy Father's Day. It isn't only for June 16th but everyday.