I found myself laying in bed after getting the boys off to sleep thinking about my Mom and I kept s aying to myself, think of a happy time, think of a happy time when we were all laughing and cracking up. and all I could think of are the nights when I went out with some friends for an early dinner and they were going to stay on at the restaurant for a drink and I said to my husband, I want to go see my Mom. Even tho I was with her during the day...and we would drive to her house and she'd have the tv on and say what are you doing here? but with the twinkle in her eye and smile. I would cuddle up and lay with her and stay in her arms. While it is a happy thought, it was still when she was sick. How long will those continue to be in my mind. There are millions of other ones. I didn't go to bed hysterical, there were some tears...I don't know. My friends wife has been very sad since her mom passed 3 years ago. We talk alot but she gets depressed alot and could stay in bed for 3-4 days. She does her Mommy duties but like she tells me sometimes she just needs to be alone. Well, this past week she was in bed for a week and didn't even get up to see her daughter all dressed up for her prom. When her husband told me I said why didn't you call me, that doesn't sound like something she woruld ever miss. Well, it turns out tha t she had bleeding in her brain that has stopped, howeverit happened about a week ago. Now she is in icu, they are running mri's and scans to see why it happened, rule out a possible tumor etc. Please keep her in her prayers for me. She is one person that I find it very easy to be with and talk about whatever I want whenever I want. I hope all of you have a blessed day, and thank you for being there for me!
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I hope your friend will be ok. As for how long it takes for the sadness to leave after your mother\'s death...it never leaves, but it gets easier. I still think about the day mom died and can see it all vividly in my mind. It\'s not a pretty sight, but I guess it will be with me forever. I know that my mother wouldn\'t want me to be so sad, and neither would your mother. We can\'t help it though, because we loved them sooo much. I understand your loss. I\'m sorry you have to go through this. I care
I will absolutely pray for your friend. What is her name, so I can pray for her specifically. I am glad that you are able to bring to mind times of laughter, and soon you will remember more happy times, particularly when your Mom wasn\'t sick. Life is a strange mix of happiness and sadness, and trying times. We have our experiences to lean on, to learn from, to grow from, and to get through this time on earth. If we had no hard times, it wouldn\'t be a real life. Junebug is right, your Mom would not want you to be so sad. Just as you would not want your children to be sad. I am sending you big hug, and big thanks, and lots of prayers for you, your family, and your friend. Take care of yourself young lady, and know that you are thought of kindly and often. You are a very special friend.
Love, hugs, and prayers,
Sandi
Wow I hope your friend is ok..and how are you doing? I can\'t even imagine the turmoil that is going through you...but know this one thing...Your mom is still will you every single day...she is healthy and happy and wants you to be the best you can be...oh sure you will have down days, but you will have up days too...hold onto your husband and children for the strength you need when times are the roughest...together as a family you will be ok...its nice to be alone...I love it...well not completely, I have 5 animals that depend on me daily..but over all I enjoy my quiet times..I am sorry you are so sad..I lost my grandmother who was like my second mom and it took me 5 years to heal...give youself time sweetie...hold onto those good times..
I am sorry about your friend, I will send some prayers right up. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. My mom has moved about 600 miles away from me and I lost my dad a few years back, I know it isn\'t the same, but I can understand loss.