hi
i don't know where to start. i am getting ready to move in with my boy friend/ fiance, he wants to help me with everything that i have been going through, he is always there for me. he has helped me out of some rough times, i will be moving 700 miles away from my family, i have always been close to them, specially my twin sister and my oldest sister they are all wanting me to be happy. i will still come to vist but with it being so far of drive i don't know how much i will see them, i will be moving away from all my friends, but it is just something that i had to give up to be with him, i want to be with him and his daughter, they mean so much to me. he is coming to visit my family next weekend and then we will be leaving. i just hope this is what i should do. i love him and he loves me. i have never felt like this about anybody before, we both want more kids. i just hope i will be able to have them, he said we could adopt but i would like to have a baby of my own. the doctor said to be carefull but with so many miscarriges she is not sure what will happen. well i will try to keep this updated talk to you later
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Hi teddybear. If he really loves you and you really love him and you\'re good to each other it will be a wonderful time in your life. I know it\'s hard to leave family and friends but it\'s said when one door closes another opens up. Listen to an old lady who only has the best in mind for you. For a relationship to work you have to always talk. Communication is probably the most important thing in a relationship. Tell each other when it\'s good and tell each other when something is bothering you. But, do it gently. If things annoy you and you don\'t say anything how does he know. And vice versa. if you always talk and laugh and keep the lines of communication open you will do just fine. Don\'t just let things fester inside. They will make you angry and there\'s no reason for that. Just be open. And sweetheart, I know how much you want a baby, but please, PLEASE wait. A new baby and a new relationship don\'t mix very well. You two need time together without the responsibility of a newborn. You know how much hard work they are. What if you need to talk and the baby is screaming or just needs you. Then what? Of course, you\'ll go to the baby. That\'s when resentment can creep in. You start feeling bad cause you really needed to talk or he needed to talk. Think about it darling, it\'s not something you can ever change your mind about. After 40 years of marriage I know these things. please keep in touch and let me know how it\'s going. I wish you all the luck in the world and God bless.
J.
Listen to Jessica. Her advice is excellent. I\'m so glad things are working out for you and you seem to have happiness within your grasp. Best Wishes always!