I have had to come to accept that I will probably not get to my NC sweety as soon as I wanted to.  Although the end of the divorce is imminent, I am still pretty financially shaky.  I will be lucky to get enough money to move here locally, let alone funds for moving to her area.  I do not have a job out there, and I will NOT move without a job unless I have a couple thousand minimum in the bank.  Perhaps that amount will change, but it is very important that I have my own money and my own job when I arrive and be totally self sufficient so that it is very clear I am not there for her money or to freeload.   Life in roomie's (STBX) house is tolerable.   I should have the whole place to myself most of Saturday, July 21,  (and perhaps longer) as she is gonna go out on the first date I know about.  I will be packing some more stuff up.  I made some progress last weekend, but there is still a ton of stuff to go through. I am thankful that I have my NC sweety, and thankful that I have a few people here that follow my blogs.